Coping With the Other Parent’s New Relationship

 

Most people who divorce or go through a custody case at some point move on and enter into new relationships. As a parent, you may have concerns about how your ex’s new relationship is going to affect your children. It’s important to remember that in most cases, the new relationship just takes some adjustment and is usually not detrimental to your children. The best way to handle a new relationship is to set up some ground rules before either you or your ex get involved with anyone new.

–          Agree to wait to introduce your children to new love interests until the relationship is serious. It can be confusing and upsetting for children to meet a variety of dates. Waiting until the relationship has become serious also means the new partner has a vested interest in developing a healthy relationship with your kids.

–          Discuss overnights with each other. Some parents are comfortable with new partners staying overnight when children are in the home. Others are not. It’s important to discuss this before it becomes a problem. You may end up agreeing to disagree, but it is still worth having the conversation.

–          Agree to keep “Mom” and “Dad” names exclusive. If either of you should ever remarry or enter into a long-term committed relationship, it can be helpful to have an existing agreement that your child will never call a stepparent or live-in partner by your parenting names. It might seem inconceivable to you now, but if you ex remarries someone with children, there can be a tendency to encourage everyone in the house to call the stepparent by the same name.

Call the Sampair Group to discuss your child custody case. We are located in Maricopa County, Arizona and are ready to work with you. Make an appointment today.