In the past, divorce was something embarrassing and people who were “divorcees” were looked down upon, particularly women. Public opinion has slowly evolved and today we are at a point where divorce is just something that happens and no one attaches a negative stereotype to it. Getting a divorce may no longer be stigmatized, but you may still unintentionally walk away with negative feelings about yourself because of the divorce.
When you are working through your divorce, it’s common to take time to reassess your goals and your plans. In this period of change you can often obtain clarity about who you are and what you want. However, this is not the time to focus on what you’ve done wrong and why the divorce is your fault. Self-stigmatizing yourself isn’t going to help you move forward.
Every time you find yourself placing a negative label on yourself or your behavior, try to reassess and skew the situation in a positive light.
If you believe you are unlovable because your ex no longer loves you, remind yourself that your divorce has freed you to find someone who does love and appreciate you.
You may have come to blame yourself for being rigid or harsh when it came to dealing with your ex. Standing up for what you wanted and defending yourself does not make you a bad person.
Although you and your spouse likely had many arguments, they do not mean that you are argumentative. The relationship itself created an untenable situation.
The Sampair Group is ready to advise you as you work through your divorce or family law case. Call us for an appointment with one of our knowledgeable attorneys in Maricopa County today.