With so many celebrity divorces over the summer and early fall of 2015, it can make one wonder if seeing someone in the spotlight go through the process has any impact on whether the “average Joe” decides to stay married. Some celebrity divorces seem to go smoothly, with both sides issuing a statement about their “continued friendship” and devotion to their kids while other cases appear to be an all-out war over every issue that arises. It can make it difficult to tell what is real, and how a divorce case might actually play out for a “normal” person. This type of uncertainty might lead one to have unrealistic expectations about their own case, so a quick review on the subject is a good idea.
A Huffington Post article touches on the topic of how seeing so many celebrity divorces might taint our view of divorce, but goes one step further by bringing the issue to a personal level. We all know someone who is divorced, and this might mean we’ve seen firsthand the emotional trauma that can be caused by a divorce as well as the adjustment period that takes place after. It helps to see cases where your divorced friends and family seem to be just fine after the divorce, because it proves happiness after divorce does exist. For example:
- When custody arrangements allow for each parent to have equal, but separate, time with their children it allows for both parents to have time alone. This can give you the time you need to mourn the loss of your marriage so you can move forward, and can also give you the opportunity to reinvent who you are after divorce.
- Sharing custody gives your children the chance to get to know each parent on a more personal level, something which is immeasurably valuable as your kids become adults.
- Sharing the financial obligation that goes along with raising children is less overwhelming when your divorce decree contains solid support plans. This can allow you to develop a budget that works, without fear of your spouse doing things to “break the bank”.
Of course there are those cases where the parties are unable to peacefully co-parent or where support goes unpaid, thus creating a real hardship on one of the parties. In those instances, there are legal remedies available. Call our office for help with your case, and learn what will work for you so your post-divorce life is a happy life.
For more information about marriage and divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.