Hard Things to Accept About Divorce

divorce decree (2)You already know that divorce can be challenging, but there are a few things that can be hard to accept as you move through the process. Understanding and recognizing these up front can help you cope and move more smoothly through the process.

  1. You can’t win. No one ever wins in a divorce. It is definitely possible to come away with almost everything you wanted, but no one ever gets divorced and has every single thing they asked for. Divorce is a complex financial transaction that requires patience and good attorney to get through.  And no matter how many things the judge agrees with you about, the end result still leaves you with emotional pain from the end of your marriage.
  2. Compromise is the best solution. It is easy to focus on getting everything you want and fighting hard for your rights. You are absolutely entitled to do so. However, the best way to walk away from a divorce with the fewest legal fees and the healthiest plan for the future is to work through a cooperative process such as mediation or collaborative law. Finding a way to compromise together will allow you to have the healthiest relationship in the future, which is so important if you have children together. Compromise also allows you to customize your divorce decree to a level no judge will ever do.
  3. He said/she said doesn’t matter in the end. Because divorce is such a personal process, it is tempting to get caught up in the details of what your ex did or said. Arizona is a “no fault” state. Therefore the determination of who caused what is generally not heard by the Court. The only exception to this is if you are disputing parenting time and decision-making regarding the children. Letting go of the ways in which your ex has wronged you is hard, but in the end it will allow you to move forward.

 

The qualified attorneys at the Sampair Group handle divorce and post-decree modification in Maricopa County, Arizona. We care about your case and are ready to talk to you. Schedule an appointment with us.