Marriage is a life-changing event for not only you and your spouse, but for your children and other family members as well. Before calling it quits, the Phoenix divorce lawyers at The Sampair Group recommend asking yourself the following questions:
1. How Bad Is The Problem?
You need to determine if your problem is a “hard” problem or a “soft” problem. A hard problem would be if your spouse was abusing you or has untreated substance abuse or addictions. If this is the case, then you need to remove yourself from the situation immediately. If you find yourself saying things like, “We just aren’t in love anymore,” or “we’ve grown apart,” this is considered more of a soft problem. Before deciding on divorce, soft problems can be approached and discussed in couples therapy to figure out the specific things that can make you each happy and open up the possibility of fixing any smaller problems.
2. Is Divorce What You Actually Want?
Are you just angry with your spouse and just threatening divorce, or is this something you actually want and have thought long and hard about? This is important to consider so no one is acting on impulse during fights and hurt feelings. If it solutions to your problems you are looking for, threatening divorce to get your spouse’s attention is not the answer. This is another battle that can be attended to with couples counseling.
3. Have You Thought About The Negative Consequences?
Getting a divorce can mean much more than separating from your spouse, but can also mean a loss of dreams and goals. Even if you have made a solid decision to file for divorce, be sure to have a support system from friends, family or counseling in place to help you through the emotional stress of it.
You have to also consider the affects getting a divorce will have on your children. You need to be there for them and able to face their pain and help them cope.
If you are the one wanting the divorce, there will be pain inflicted on others that you will need to face as well, whether they are family are friends.
Not only is divorce an emotional process, but you also want to be sure that you are legally protected. The Sampair Group spousal attorney’s in Phoenix are here for you to assure that your legal rights are in place during the divorce process. Contact us today for a free consultation.
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