If a couple becomes unhappy in their marriage, sometimes the final decision, while a very tough one to make, is to file for divorce. In some situations, however, it may only be one spouse instead of both that wants to take the route of divorce, and telling your partner that you want to file for one can be intimidating. Avoiding your feelings and the situation altogether are only going to make things worse, and it is important to take some important and proper steps to telling your partner you want out of the marriage.
Timing is Important
Timing is everything in this kind of situation. This isn’t a conversation you want to bring up in the middle of dinner or right when your spouse walks into the house after a long day of work. And you definitely shouldn’t bring up this kind of topic during an argument, as it will only fuel the fire and make the situation much, much worse. Choose a time when both of you are calm and relaxed and make sure there is plenty of time for the conversation – you have no idea how long this is going to take. Turn off your cell phones and make sure there are no distractions.
Know What You Want To Say
Have a pretty solid idea of what you want to say before the conversation happens. How you tell your spouse you want a divorce and what you say can make all the difference in a conversation like this. Be calm, direct, kind and confident in your decision and don’t give your spouse any false hope that you may change your mind. Be sure to not blame your spouse or point out any of their perceived failures or deficiencies.
Give Your Spouse Room For Their Feelings
You have no idea how your spouse is going to react. So it is important to stand your ground in the face of what could very well be some intense emotional attacks toward you. They may try and talk you out of your decision, but it’s important to give them time to talk and discuss their feelings without your interruption.
Keep The Door Open For More Discussion
A discussion about divorce isn’t going to be easy, and it certainly isn’t going to get completed in just one session. Give your spouse some space and time to absorb the information they have just gotten from you and discuss the details of the divorce at a later date, not on the first time. Reassure your spouse that you want a fair divorce and you want it to be as peaceful as it can be, especially if there are children involved. Their best interest should always come first.
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