Three Things That Aren’t What They Seem During Divorce

There are a lot of pre-conceived notions about what happens when a couple files for divorce. For starters, most people think that the kids will stay with their mom unless she is shown to be an unfit parent, that the wife keeps the home, and that dads get visitation every weekend and alternating holidays. That may have been the case in the 1950’s, but the landscape for divorce looks very different today. More and more often dads are being awarded primary custody and in some cases are even granted spousal support from their ex-wife. The changes that are taking place in today’s divorces definitely lead to the conclusion that the way things were are not the way things will always be, and it pays off to have an experienced family law professional by your side to help navigate the ever changing divorce law waters.

Taking a look at a popular celebrity duo gives us a little more insight into how things are not always as they appear. Gwen Stefani recently answered a question for Ellen DeGeneres on how Blake Shelton “popped the question”. In case you hadn’t heard though, the two are not headed down the aisle. As it turns out, DeGeneres was referring to the hit show the pair co-host, The Voice, and was having a bit of fun with Stefani with her word choice. That said, there are some things to be aware of when going through a divorce, because things can appear one way but in fact be the opposite. Here are some examples:

  • Assets can be hidden, so don’t take a report of financial condition for face value. It is in your best interest to investigate when you believe your spouse is concealing assets.
  • Equitable does not mean the same thing as evenly. The Court will divide property equitably, and too many litigants take for granted that this means evenly. The truth is that the division of property is done in a way the Court considers “fair” and that does not always mean each party walks away with half of the assets.
  • Visitation schedules can change, and when the circumstances warrant a change it is best to be flexible. While having a regular schedule in place helps you to manage your daily obligations, there are bound to be times a deviation is needed. If you are able to remain open to being flexible about visits when your spouse makes a request, you can expect the same in return.

Divorce is not easy, but it is also not the end of the world. Call us today for more information about divorce, and what to expect during your case.

For more information about divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.