The Benefit Of Therapy During Divorce

There are few things in life more stressful than getting a divorce. Your entire world changes when you get divorced, and taking back control of your life can seem like an impossible task. For many, the help of a trained counselor or therapist is necessary. When professional help is given, the benefits are immeasurable and your entire family reaps the rewards. Once you have put yourself in a position to move forward, your kids and loved ones begin to see the positive impact of therapy during a divorce.

Every case is different, with its own set of unique facts. This means that what you need from a therapist is much different than what any other person needs. While the results are different for everyone, some of the most common benefits of therapy during divorce include:

  • Giving you the tools necessary to establish and maintain healthy boundaries you’re your ex-spouse.
  • Learning how to deal with feelings of depression, remorse, and anxiety.
  • Helping you to avoid unhealthy emotional responses, such as drinking or gambling.

It is important to choose the right counselor, because the way you interact with your therapist is critical. You must feel comfortable enough to be completely honest, and give yourself the freedom to talk openly. Divorce might be the end of your marriage, but it is not the end of your relationship with your children and you can move forward towards a bright future. Being able to put your needs first will help you be a better parent, friend, and employee. When you are emotionally happy and healthy, being able to handle the stress of unpleasant situations becomes a little easier. We work hard to make sure you understand how the divorce process impacts your state of mind, and how you can learn to face the end of your marriage without emotional fallout. Call us today for more information.

If you have questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call the Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Five Things The Court Considers When Awarding Spousal Support

When a marriage ends, each spouse deserves a fresh start. It is hard to get this start if you do not have the financial ability to support yourself or your children. Asking for spousal support (often times referred to as alimony) is one way to help you find your financial footing, and live an independent life. In order for the Court to determine if support is appropriate, and in what amount, several factors are taken into consideration. It is important to understand what the Court reviews, so your case can be prepared with evidence that is favorable to your request, whether you are seeking support or are the one being asked to pay.

The Court determines spousal maintenance by reviewing certain criteria and asking questions about the case, such as the following:

  • Is there a possibility for the spouse who is asking for support to support themselves without aid?
  • What type of lifestyle are the parties used to living? After a divorce, the parties are entitled to enjoy a similar lifestyle, which may require financial support from one spouse to the other.
  • Are there any educational needs that must be met prior to the spouse asking for support being able to support themselves?
  • What is the income of each party, and how does it differ? This includes looking at whether one of the spouses stayed home in order that the other further their career, and how the income of each party was impacted by this decision.
  • How long were the parties married?

If you have other factors that are not included in the above, the Court will listen to those as well. Once a decision is made it will be either for a set amount to be paid monthly or a lump sum to be paid all at once. If you are awarded monthly payments, the Court will also fix and end date to the payments. Our goal is to help you reach results that meet your needs, and the needs of your family. Call us today to find out what to expect when seeking spousal support, or when being asked to pay alimony.

For more information about divorce and spousal support, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

5 Ways to Get Over Your Divorce

It takes time to recover from a divorce. Even though the legal papers may be signed and finalized, it may take longer for you to feel as though you’ve really worked through all of the emotions involved in the divorce. Here are some ways to help you move forward.

  1. Write a letter to your ex. Detail every single thing he or she did wrong. Spill out all the blame and pent up emotions. Rant, rave, and say everything you’ve held inside all these months. Then delete it. DO NOT SEND IT. Pouring out all of these feelings and giving them words will help you process how you feel and move past it. There is nothing to be gained by giving the letter to your ex and in fact doing so would probably make things worse.
  2. Forgive yourself. Deep inside you might be blaming yourself for the end of your marriage, or for actions you took during the divorce. It’s over and it’s time to grant yourself immunity. You did the best you could at the time and you’re moving on.
  3. Make a list of the ways in which your ex was wrong for you. Seeing this list will help you process that the divorce was necessary. It will also help you think about what you really need in a relationship and a partner.
  4. Change your environment. Change up your living space so that it is at least slightly different from the way it was when you were married or while you were going through the divorce. Use this as a signal for a new era in your life.
  5. Smile. Make yourself smile. Studies show that the actual act of smiling makes you feel happier.

When you need a law firm to help you with a divorce or post-decree modifications, the Sampair Group can help. Our attorneys serve the Mesa, Phoenix, and Glendale areas of Arizona. Call us now so we can help you.

5 Signs of Impending Divorce

1. You Think Of Life Without Your Spouse
During marital problems, one or both spouses may have thoughts of how much better life would/could be if they were divorced. If you are constantly thinking about divorce, it’s a sign that you feel stuck and don’t see any solution to your marital problems.

2. Disconnection
If you’re no longer spending time together and you feel relief when your spouse isn’t around, it’s a sign that you have disconnected from each other and are both already disengaged from the marriage.

3. No Conflict Resolution
A lack of effective conflict resolution can be detrimental to a marriage. Not being able to resolve differences without avoiding disagreement and conflict can lead to a loss of respect, which can increase distance and cause withdrawal between spouses.

4. Disaffection
Emotional disengagement is usually accompanied with a lack of affection or complete disappearance of it. If you have separated from each other emotionally, it’s likely that you don’t feel much love for each other.

5. Increased Focus Outside of the Marriage
Once a marriage gets disconnected enough, each spouse will start focusing less on the marriage and more on outside activities. This could include immersing themselves in the lives of their children, working late nights at their career or pouring themselves into future careers.

Going through a divorce is a confusing and stressful time. Contact an experienced Phoenix divorce attorney at The Sampair Group for more information.

Who Can Serve Divorce Papers in Arizona?

If you have filed a motion to open a child support, paternity, or custody case, it’s then your responsibility, rather than the courts, to provide notice to the child’s other parent. Due to the significance of this type of proceeding, it is no shock that there are strict rules related to how the other parent […]

Does Getting a Divorce in Arizona Affect Your Credit Score?

Divorce is a very serious and disruptive experience in anyone’s life that can change everything. During this time, you will have to adjust your entire living situation, consider all your assets, and think about the effects the divorce can have on your credit score. Also, all debts, regardless of if they are separate or marital will have to be settled after you have split up.

If you don’t have enough information on the situation or if you don’t plan ahead of time, a divorce may wind up impacting your credit score negatively. Keep reading to learn more.

How Can Divorce Impact Your Credit Score?

While there are quite a few people who understand that the dissolution of their marriage can impact their credit rating, they don’t exactly know how. While the divorce itself will not cause your score to lower, splitting up with someone can cause financial problems. Some specific things that may impact your credit rating after a divorce include:

Getting Behind on Your Bills

Life is something that comes with many expenses and during a divorce it is easy to get behind on payments due, which can impact your credit rating. By communicating with your ex-spouse in a civil manner about the bills can be both troublesome and stressful. In most cases, you are going to be impacted more if you made less than your former spouse.

Community Property Laws

Arizona is considered a community property state. What this means is that all the property that you gathered during the course of a marriage belongs to both you and your partner after a divorce. With community property, this means that if your partner took a loan out while you were married, it may also count toward your debt. If you can’t afford this and aren’t able to make the required payments, then you may be sued by the lender, which can result in a reduced credit score.

An Unpaid Joint Account

Chances are, if you were married, then you probably had a joint account with your spouse as well as a shared car loan, mortgage, credit card, or something similar. Even if you have no plans to stay with your spouse, you are still required to take care of any debts you have. Also, if your ex opts not to pay the bill, this may hurt your credit score.

If you get a divorce, then the decree will designate who is over every account. For example, you may have to cover the electric bill and credit card payments while your ex-spouse needs to cover the car loan and mortgage. However, if your ex does not pay or if they make a late payment, this will impact each of your credit ratings. The best way to handle this is by planning ahead and closing any joint accounts or transferring them to one person or another.

Vindictive Spending

When a divorce is amicable, there are some spouses who opt to punish their partner by using a credit card and accumulating more debt. If they have the legal authorization to use the card, they are able to do this with no consequences, all while your credit is ruined. One way to avoid this issue is to never add your spouse as an authorized user, or remove then quickly.

Tips to Protect Your Credit While Getting Divorced

There are several things you can do to help protect your credit score while getting a divorce. These include:

  • Close all joint accounts
  • Watch your spouse’s spending
  • Resist unnecessary spending
  • Maintain records
  • Pay off your debts

If you want to ensure your divorce doesn’t impact your credit score, use the tips here. You can also call the team at The Sampair Group at 623-777-3926 to learn more.

Are There Benefits To A Legal Separation?

When some couples believe their marriage has reached its end, a last ditch effort to salvage the relationship may be made. In some cases, the parties prefer to begin the dissolution process by legally separating before taking the plunge and getting divorced. A separation can give the parties perspective, and often times will help a couple come to a decision about their marriage that is acceptable.

Some things to know about legal separations include:

  • If both parties are not agreeable to the separation, the Court may designate the case as a divorce.
  • If you have not yet met the residency requirements for a divorce in Arizona, you may opt for a separation until the requirements are met.
  • The grounds for a separation are the same as those for obtaining a divorce.

When seeking a separation, many of the same issues as in divorce must be considered. This means you have to seek court determination as to where your kids will live, when visitation will take place, and how assets are divided. Keep in mind that at any time during the separation, one or both of the parties may change their mind about their circumstances. If a change of heart takes place, the parties can reconcile and work on their marriage. However, if it is clear the legitimate aims of marriage can no longer be met; the request for a legal separation can be changed to a request for dissolution. Taking the step to separate before divorcing is helpful for many couples, because it gives the parties a taste of what it is like to no longer be together. For others, separation simply prolongs the process. We will work with you to develop a plan that works for you.

For answers to your questions about separation, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today.

 

The Most Common Causes Of Divorce

Life has a way of never staying the same. Just when you think you have hit your stride, an event might come along and derail you. Sometimes the event is minor, other times catastrophic. The way in which people deal with life’s little curveballs can determine the outcome of their relationships. Some of the changes may be positive, while others may be less so. And, there are those circumstances that at first glance seem to be negative, but upon taking a closer look are blessings in disguise.

While it is unfortunate that families split, and children are shuffled back and forth between parents, divorce does happen. Turning this event into a positive life moment, and learning from it depends on several factors. A good starting point is to determine the cause for the dissolution, and then take steps to ensure history is not repeated.

Common causes for divorce include:

  • Financial struggles.
  • Death or serious illness, either of a child or of your spouse.
  • Failing to fully commit to the marriage.
  • Ineffective communication, or too much fighting.
  • Infidelity, either physically or emotionally.
  • Getting married at a young age.
  • Expecting your partner to change, or failing to compromise on issues that are important to both parties.

No one cause can be identified, and likely there are multiple reasons for why marriages end in divorce. Your case is unique to you, and the reason for your divorce will not be the same as in any other case. If you have exhausted all attempts at reconciliation, and still believe divorce is the answer, call our office. We can help to make the process less painful, and will work to make sure your interests are protected. Having a skilled family law attorney on your side works to ease the burden somewhat, and can give leave you with the feeling that your post-divorce life will be happy. Throughout the process we will keep you updated, and fully advised of the status.

For more information about the causes of divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Homeschooling and Child Custody

Homeschooling has become more and more popular in recent years. Some parents choose this option for religious reasons, others because they simply believe their child will be better served by education at home. Homeschooling can become an issue in a custody case in several situations. When a parenting plan is being created, the plan has to work with the schooling schedule. Sometimes one parent opposes homeschooling and would prefer a child attend public or private schools and will not consent to homeschooling.

In Arizona, the parent with legal decision-making authority makes the decision about how and where the child will be educated. If legal decision-making is being decided by the court and the parents have differing views on schooling, this may play a part in the decision the court makes. The custody decision is made based on what is in the child’s best interests. One of the factors considered by the court in this analysis is the child’s adjustment to school. If a child is currently homeschooled, the court will examine how the child is doing and if remaining in homeschooling would benefit the child. If the child is currently in a traditional school, the court will again examine the child’s progress and determine if remaining in the school or switching to homeschooling is best.

Homeschooling is legal and is considered an appropriate education as long as the parent providing the education meets the standards and requirements set by the state. In the past, homeschooling may have been a negative factor, but today it is considered acceptable.

If you are involved in a custody battle involving homeschooling, gather records and evidence that demonstrate your child’s progress (or lack of progress) in the current schooling environment. If your child was previously involved in a different kind of schooling, evidence of how well your child fared in that environment will provide needed contrast.

Call the Sampair Group for advice in your custody case in the Glendale, Mesa, and Phoenix areas of Arizona. We are ready to help you with your case.

Paying Off Child Support Early in Arizona

Do you have just a couple years left to pay child support before your dependent turns eighteen? If so, paying off child support in one lump sum may sound appealing. By paying off your child support early, you won’t have to worry about the monthly payments anymore or having money withheld from your paycheck. Sound convinced?

Hold on a minute. The fact is that most attorneys advise against paying off child support early. This is because when the state of Arizona is involved, it typically does not go along with the deal, even if both parents are ready to sign the papers. States are reluctant to have child support paid off before the dependent turns eighteen because child support can be modified at any time, meaning the payment could be increased or reduced. Also, you need to consider that your financial situation may change in the future and that money you used to pay off child support is something you could really use.

Child Support Law Arizona

Child support is paid until the child reaches the age of eighteen. However, if he or she is still in high school at this time, the child support continues until he or she graduates or turns nineteen, whichever happens first. Also, if the child has a disability, the state may require child support be paid past the age of eighteen. Payments are determined by the Arizona Child Support Guidelines. These consist of factors that are considered when determining obligation. The most important obligation the state takes into account is the current financial needs of both the child and custodial parent. Once an amount is decided upon, this is formalized in court with a child support agreement.

Unless otherwise arranged in a divorce decree, child support payments are typically gained through income withholding. The state will collect child support payments through your employer and in turn pay the parent who is caring for the child. While this can sometimes create tension with an employer, he or she is obligated to comply and can not fire you due to the withholding.

Written Agreement for Paying off Child Support

If the state is not involved in your child support payments, you have the right to pay off the support in one lump sum that reflects the child’s current support obligation. You will need to reach an agreement with the custodial parent while keeping the best interests of the child in the forefront. It’s best to work with an attorney when writing up a draft agreement, which should include the following provisions:

  • The payment is for child support and is not a gift
  • The payment is a lump sum that intends to pay off your child support obligations in full
  • The agreement will contain the current payments, months remaining, total owed, and total paid

These provisions must be clear and concise so there is no confusion on the part of everyone involved. All parties must sign the agreement and issue the payoff check to the clearinghouse. Never give the check to the custodial parent as this could be misconstrued as a gift rather than child support payment. It’s also important to keep a record of the payment on file.

If, however, the state of Arizona is part of the child support case, it will need to sign off on the agreement. That probably won’t happen. The state would rather continue collecting monthly payments through income withholding since your original child support agreement could change at anytime in the future.

When a Child Support Agreement is Modified

If a parent has experienced a change in circumstances, the state of Arizona has the right to modify the child support order. These circumstance may include:

  • A major change in a parent’s health insurance coverage
  • Loss of employment
  • Substantial pay decrease

This does not include a parent quitting or getting fired from their job, however.

The biggest con of paying off child support early is the possibility of the order being modified in the future. When you pay child support in full, you are no longer able to modify or terminate the agreement. However, by keeping that lump sum in the bank, you know you have access to monthly payments and have a lump sum tucked away in case you need it. To learn more about your child support case, contact the team at The Sampair Group today. We can be reached at 623-777-3926.