Most divorces are not friendly, because if the couple were able to agree on important issues they would likely not be getting divorced. Simply put, the emotions are too much for some people to handle, and they may resort to erratic or irrational behavior rather than deal with their new reality. Dealing with a difficult ex- spouse can drain your finances, and impact your overall health. But, there are ways to communicate that will not end if conflict or struggle. Implementing effective communication methods will decrease your stress level, and help your kids to adjust.
One way to make the divorce process easier and pave the way for conflict-free discussions with your ex is to engage in an alternative form of divorce process. One popular method is collaborative divorce, which means the parties agree in advance to work together to reach an agreement on the issues. This method will require the two of you to be able to work together. Other things you can do to make dealing with a difficult ex-spouse easier include:
- Mediation: this process involves a neutral third party, who hears both sides and suggests way to resolve disputes. Mediation is non-binding, so if you are unable to come to an agreement, you can still allow the Court to decide.
- Using specialists: child therapists and counselors can be a big help, because they will step in and speak up for what is best for the kids. Using a child specialist can make dealing with a difficult ex less burdensome, because the suggestions come from a third party instead of you. Sometimes hearing information from a professional resonates better than hearing it from an ex-spouse.
Participating in an alternate form of divorce process, such as mediation and collaborative divorce, can put the parties at ease and turn a difficult spouse into a more reasonable one. If problems persist, you can try communicating only via email or text rather than on the phone. You can also utilize an online scheduling service, which will allow the parties to sign on and see important information such as drop off and pick up plans.
For more information about how to deal with a difficult ex-spouse after divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.