When people talk about kids and divorce, they generally mean children under 18. But when you divorce with kids, there are guidelines for how to divide your time and organize things so that the best interests of the children are taken care of. More and more parents are now divorcing with adult children still living at home. In fact, the Pew Research Center reports that 36% of adults ages 18 to 36 live at home with their parents. When those parents divorce, it has an impact on the adult children, but there are no rules or guidelines in place to help navigate the situation.
Adult children don’t need a visitation schedule or to have someone named as their residential parent, but there most definitely are things that need to be worked out.
- Where will the child live? Will he stay in the marital home if one of the parents is keeping it? Is it time for the child to find her own place? If both parents are moving, will the child move with one of them? You need to discuss the options with your child.
- How will expenses be handled? Many Millennials live at home to save money or because they can’t afford a place of their own, but a divorce means the family’s resources are spread thin and it may be time for an adult child to begin to contribute financially for household expenses.
- How should you talk to your child about the divorce? While your child is no longer a kid, some of the same general parenting rules do apply about a divorce. It’s not fair to put your child in the middle, to speak badly of the other parent, or to ask him to pick sides. Don’t let your adult child become your champion or your enemy. Try to keep the divorce separate from your parent-child relationship.
The Sampair Group is ready to answer all of your questions about divorce and help you choose the path that is best for you. We are conveniently located in Maricopa County and are ready to advise you. Call us today.