Everyone reacts differently to going through a divorce. For some couples, the split is a long time coming and they are able to move on quickly. For others, the divorce comes as a complete shock and it can take years to accept the fact the marriage didn’t last. Often there is some middle ground, those instances where one or both of the parties to the case seem to be moving forward with their lives, but then experience minor setbacks. How well you adjust to your post-divorce life depends on the unique characteristics of your personality, but there are some helpful tips when it comes to dealing with the loss of your marriage.
Strangely enough, these tips come from how we view the end of celebrity marriages. For most people, there can be too much of celebrity news, but when the reports offer advice that can be applied to everyday life, the story is worth a second look. Here are five ways you can get over your divorce, from the world of celebrity divorce:
- Allow yourself to be angry. If you don’t let yourself go through the emotions that are under the surface, those emotions can quickly spiral out of control and prevent you from taking positive steps in the future.
- Take a close look at whether you are in denial about the end of your marriage. It is natural to have questions about whether divorce is right, but once you move past the denial you are better able to accept the inevitable. In most cases, you are even able to do this without bitterness or a longing for what once was.
- Don’t try to bargain with yourself, or with your spouse. Trying to change who you are, or make your spouse change, will only end in unhappiness and you will likely end up at the same place later down the road. You can save yourself a lot of heartache by acknowledging who you are, and identifying your needs. If your spouse is unable to meet those needs, no amount of trying to change him or her will get you the desired results and may end up causing resentment and anger.
- Know that it is OK to be sad, or depressed about the end of the marriage. If you don’t give yourself enough time to grieve you may jump too quickly into the next relationship and repeat the same actions that led to its demise.
- Accept that the marriage has ended. Once you work through all of the stages of grief, you will finally come to accepting the divorce.
It is crucial to keep in mind that your process is not the same as anyone else’s, and the time it takes you to “get over” the divorce is personal to you. These emotions are natural, but if you find yourself becoming overwhelmed, it is a good idea to speak with a professional or trusted friend. As for the actual case itself, allow us to help. When you put your case in our hands you have one less burden to carry, which can better position you to go through the normal emotions that go along with getting divorced.
For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.