- Custody cases are always bitter. While some custody cases do turn ugly, it’s not something you should assume will happen. Most parents honestly want the best for their child and find a way to work together to create a plan that will benefit their child. While deciding custody can be challenging and complex, if you and the other parent enter the process with good intentions, it’s likely you can resolve the case with little damage. It is important to have an attorney who is willing to listen to you and help you create a parenting schedule that puts your child first.
- Your custody case will ruin your child’s life. If your custody case turns into an all-out war that focuses on a personal need for revenge instead of your child’s needs, yes, your child will likely be damaged. But most children get through a custody case extremely well and continue on with their lives with little scars.
- You have to trash the other parent to win. First of all, no one wins in a custody case. Everyone accepts some kind of compromise with the intention of creating a plan that is best for the child. And no one has to trash anyone to achieve a fair and reasonable result. If you are in a contested custody case, you do need to have a frank discussion with your attorney about your concerns about the other parent and the evidence you have to back it up, but your goal should not be to ruin the other parent.
- The non-custodial parent is the loser. The outcome of a custody case should be two involved parents who share time with their child. Often one parent has more time than the other, but that doesn’t mean anyone has lost. The parent with less time is still important in the child’s life and there are ways to maximize the parenting time arrangement via Skype, texts, phone calls, and simply staying emotionally involved.
The Sampair Group represents parents in paternity, custody, child support, and divorce cases in the Phoenix, Glendale and Mesa, Arizona areas. Call to make an appointment today to discuss your questions with us.