By and large the biggest concern of most divorcing parents is how the new family dynamic will impact their children. This is also an issue the Court puts foremost when entering orders in a divorce case, and the general rule is that decisions are made with the best interests of the children taken into consideration. What this means for you is not the same as what it might mean for a friend or family member. So, in order to make sure the plan put in place in your case does not harm your children, you have to be vocal about your kids’ needs. It is also helpful to make every effort to work well with your ex-spouse for the sake of your children. There are several things you can do to make sure your kids are not exposed to the dark side of your split, including keeping disagreements between the adults and avoiding using the children as pawns or leverage for your own gain. For those that are able to make this transition smoothly, the kids usually end up happy and no worse for the wear.
One way to keep your kids happy during, and even after, your divorce can be seen from a celebrity couple that has been getting a lot of press lately. Hilary Duff has made headlines about her split from Mike Comrie, and the news is good. The pair was recently seen enjoying a meal together with their son. The benefits to getting along with your ex, as seen through the eyes of your children, include:
- Kids learn by the behavior they witness, and when they see their divorced parents getting along as friends it makes it easier to emotionally accept the new family structure.
- When children see their divorced parents resolving their differences with respect and cooperation, valuable life lessons regarding conflict resolution are taught.
- Kids of divorce can often times feel they are to “blame” for their parents’ split. But, when the kids witness their parents working together for the benefit of the children these harmful emotions are not given a chance to surface and manifest in undesirable behavior.
The trick is to figure out what works for you and your former spouse. If your kids are older, it helps to include them in important decisions. If you are considering divorce and have questions about how it will impact your kids, call our office. We can help you come up with solutions that fit your family.
For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.