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Three Ways Your Divorce Could Be Worse

Getting divorced is never easy, even if you are still friends with your spouse. The emotions that go along with ending a marriage, the financial struggles that accompany separating one household into two, and the toll taken on kids during divorce is enough to make anyone throw up their hands for help. But even taking all of these things into account, it is possible to reach solutions that work and to move on with your life. The key is to focus on what matters the most to you and your family, and learn to compromise where necessary. We can help you by looking at your needs and the facts of your case, then providing aggressive representation that works.

And, if you need a little pick me up during the times when divorce seems too much to take, consider those that have it a bit harder. The world of celebrity is filled with spotlights, cameras, and little privacy. The fact that the entire world knows your personal business is enough, but in some cases the small details add up to giant heartache. Here are three ways your case could be worse, taken from some of the more talked about celebrity splits of last year:

• A short lived marriage, where one party makes the majority of the money can create feelings of resentment and add to the pressure to find quick solutions. This was seen in the divorce of Kaley Cuoco and Ryan Sweeting, with reports that Cuoco demanded Sweeting begin earning his own living.
• Starting a new relationship before the divorce is final can add to the emotional trauma that goes along with getting divorced. While this tactic may work for some, Gwen Stefani and Blake Shelton are perfect examples; it is usually not advisable to jump into a new relationship too quickly.
• Stepping out with a new flame while trying to keep it under wraps from your spouse can also spell disaster for a marriage and make the divorce take a heated turn. This is what happened in the case of Hillary Duff and Mike Comrie, and also with Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick (although Kardashian and Disick are not technically married the pair do have kids together and have a long history of a tumultuous romantic coupling).

We offer these examples, not as a way of poking fun at others or making light of their experiences, but as a way to demonstrate the unique nature of each case. The things that work for you will not always work for the next person and by the same token the things that cause you trauma will not necessarily lead to the same result for a friend. We understand the little nuances of each case and look for solutions that take your specific facts into consideration. If you are thinking about divorce but have questions about certain things, call us to learn the answers. Together we will develop a strategy that fits the facts and meets your needs.

For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

When Real Life And Entertainment Collide: Blake And Miranda Take On The CMA’s

When the news that Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert were ending their marriage, country music fans across the nation may have felt like they were living out the lyrics to a country music song by crying in their beers. Then the rumors began swirling that Blake and his The Voice co-star Gwen Stefani were an item. It was not long before those rumors were proven to be true and since that time fans have been wondering what it would be like if Blake and Gwen bumped into Miranda. Enter the CMA’s, where both Blake and Miranda had appearances and every fan’s questions about interaction between the two, and whether Gwen would be there too, were answered.

Tabloid reports started by claiming Lambert would bring her new beau with her to help soften the blow of possibly running into Blake and Gwen. This is an approach that is not only used by divorced celebrities, but also by everyday divorced couples looking to get through the awkward circumstance of seeing their ex with a new flame. While this may work for some, there are other things you can do to prepare yourself emotionally for seeing your ex-spouse with someone new, such as:

● Be the bigger person by being nice. A polite greeting and graceful exit will leave you feeling empowered and ready to move forward with your life.

● Avoid turning on the waterworks, if you feel yourself becoming emotional it is a good idea to say a fast goodbye and walk away.

● Resist the urge to bring up the past by asking questions or trying to reminisce.

If you are not quite ready for a chance encounter with your ex, the best thing you can do is to avoid the event or a certain area of an event where your ex is likely to be present. This approach does not suggest you give up your future by staying home while your ex moves on, but make sure the time is right before taking the chance you will have to sit next to your ex and a new romantic partner if you are not ready. That way, when you are emotionally ready to face your ex and a new love, you can do so without resorting to behavior you may later regret.
For more information about marriage and divorce, consult a qualified legal professional.

Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Three Ways A “Work Spouse” Can Ruin Your Marriage

We’ve all heard the phrase “work husband” or “work wife”, used to refer to that one person at the office that you connect with the most; on a professional level. But, sometimes the relationship you have with your work spouse can start to cause problems at home, with your real spouse. When this happens, if steps are not taken to remedy the situation, it is not uncommon for your marriage to end in divorce. Having a work spouse is typical in nearly every line of work, but even more so for celebrities. Stars spend a lot of time together, and so it is not unusual to share a bond with a co-star who also happens to be your co-worker.

Perhaps one of the most well-known “work spouse couples” today is that of Blake Shelton and Gwen Stefani. The pair are co-hosts, along with Adam Levine and Pharrell Williams, popular singing show The Voice. Both Blake and Gwen have recently split from their at home spouses, and are now a couple. While not every relationship that is formed at work spells disaster you’re your marriage, there are three ways a work spouse can ruin your marriage, including:

  • Spending more time with people you work with rather than with your spouse at home can cause distance to grown between you and your family. When too much distance is created, it is hard to build a solid foundation.
  • When you start confiding in a work spouse rather than your real spouse, feelings of betrayal and mistrust often follow. This can be the beginning of the demise of your marriage.
  • When lines are crossed at work, it is hard to bounce back and show affection at home. If you or your spouse feel unloved or undesirable, it is difficult to maintain a healthy relationship.

For those that decide to take their “work spouse” relationship to the next level, a divorce is nearly always in the cards. If a divorce is filed, you will have to sort out issues like child custody and visitation, support, and division of assets. We can help. Call us today to find out more about divorce, and what you can expect if you are thinking about filing for divorce or have been served with divorce papers.

If you have questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Three Things That Aren’t What They Seem During Divorce

There are a lot of pre-conceived notions about what happens when a couple files for divorce. For starters, most people think that the kids will stay with their mom unless she is shown to be an unfit parent, that the wife keeps the home, and that dads get visitation every weekend and alternating holidays. That may have been the case in the 1950’s, but the landscape for divorce looks very different today. More and more often dads are being awarded primary custody and in some cases are even granted spousal support from their ex-wife. The changes that are taking place in today’s divorces definitely lead to the conclusion that the way things were are not the way things will always be, and it pays off to have an experienced family law professional by your side to help navigate the ever changing divorce law waters.

Taking a look at a popular celebrity duo gives us a little more insight into how things are not always as they appear. Gwen Stefani recently answered a question for Ellen DeGeneres on how Blake Shelton “popped the question”. In case you hadn’t heard though, the two are not headed down the aisle. As it turns out, DeGeneres was referring to the hit show the pair co-host, The Voice, and was having a bit of fun with Stefani with her word choice. That said, there are some things to be aware of when going through a divorce, because things can appear one way but in fact be the opposite. Here are some examples:

  • Assets can be hidden, so don’t take a report of financial condition for face value. It is in your best interest to investigate when you believe your spouse is concealing assets.
  • Equitable does not mean the same thing as evenly. The Court will divide property equitably, and too many litigants take for granted that this means evenly. The truth is that the division of property is done in a way the Court considers “fair” and that does not always mean each party walks away with half of the assets.
  • Visitation schedules can change, and when the circumstances warrant a change it is best to be flexible. While having a regular schedule in place helps you to manage your daily obligations, there are bound to be times a deviation is needed. If you are able to remain open to being flexible about visits when your spouse makes a request, you can expect the same in return.

Divorce is not easy, but it is also not the end of the world. Call us today for more information about divorce, and what to expect during your case.

For more information about divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

 

 

A Lesson In Divorce From Two Celebrity Singers

Going through a divorce is difficult, even if you remain friendly with your soon to be ex-spouse. But, there are some things you can do to help you cope with the range of emotions that accompany ending a marriage. When you focus on reaching a finalization of your case and moving forward with your life, you might be surprised at how well-adjusted you become. While it can be hard to find places and information that is helpful, one unlikely source is becoming more popular: the word of celebrity divorce. In most cases when celebrities divorce, the media reports provide a quick lesson in what not to do. However, there are a pair of celebrity singers who are recently going through divorce, and the everyday person could learn a thing or two from these two songbirds.

By now it is no secret that Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert have called it quits, nor has it been kept under wraps that Blake’s co-star on The Voice, Gwen Stefani is ending her marriage to fellow songster Gavin Rossdale.  Here are some takeaways from the divorces of these two superstars:

  • Throwing yourself into your work, or a project you hold dear, can be a good distraction. When you take the time to focus on what you want to do and the direction you want your life to take, pretty soon the woes of going through a divorce take a backseat.
  • Taking part in your job, including the people around you, will give you the chance to redefine who and what you want to be. This type of environment can be just the emotional boost you need to face the obstacles of divorce.

Other things that help people to cope with ending their marriage include taking part in counseling or therapy, leaning on friends and family, and taking up old hobbies that were left unattended during the marriage. Whatever method works best for you is the method you should implement into your daily routine. When you are able to shift your focus to things you enjoy, the mechanics of going through a divorce seem to cause less pain. If you are considering divorce, or have been served with divorce papers, call our office for help.

If you have questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

An Update On A Favorite Celebrity Musical Duo

When Miranda Lambert and Blake Shelton divorced, country music fans all across the country cried. The story seems to have played out along the lines of the lyrics from a country song, with Shelton moving on quickly to date fellow The Voice co-star Gwen Stefani and Lambert seemingly licking her wounds. Since the split, fans of the famous pair have been left scratching their heads and wondering “what went wrong?”

The truth is that marriage is hard work, and when you are famous and spend the large majority of your time apart, it is made even harder. Lambert recently opened up about the split to Cosmopolitan magazine, and some of the lessons we can all take away from this celebrity split include things like the following:

  • Everyone heals differently, so don’t be in a hurry to start dating again after your divorce. Instead, take the time you need to feel ready for a relationship again, and be happy to be your own best friend.
  • Divorce is hard, even a “friendly” case. Just because the parties “remain friends” and are able to co-parent or make other joint decisions (based on the unique facts of each case), does not mean the process is not emotionally trying.
  • Every relationship is a chance to grow and to learn, even relationships that end in divorce. When you can recognize the changes you’ve made, and identify areas of opportunity, you will know that your life experiences have helped you move from one phase to the next. Sometimes it takes an ending of one chapter to start something new.

It is important to remember that every case is different, so do not expect your process to be the same as a close friend or family member. Some cases involve large estates, while others contain more modest assets. Not every couple has children, so developing a parenting plan is not required in every case, nor is coming up with a workable visitation schedule. Whatever is most important to you, rest assured we work hard for results that are fair. Call our office today to schedule an appointment.

For more information about marriage and divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

A Lesson In Divorce From Two Celebrity Singers

Going through a divorce is difficult, even if you remain friendly with your soon to be ex-spouse. But, there are some things you can do to help you cope with the range of emotions that accompany ending a marriage. When you focus on reaching a finalization of your case and moving forward with your life, you might be surprised at how well-adjusted you become. While it can be hard to find places and information that is helpful, one unlikely source is becoming more popular: the word of celebrity divorce. In most cases when celebrities divorce, the media reports provide a quick lesson in what not to do. However, there are a pair of celebrity singers who are recently going through divorce, and the everyday person could learn a thing or two from these two songbirds.

By now it is no secret that Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert have called it quits, nor has it been kept under wraps that Blake’s co-star on The Voice, Gwen Stefani is ending her marriage to Gavin Rossdale.  Here are some takeaways from the divorces of these two superstars:

●          Throwing yourself into your work, or a project you hold dear, can be a good distraction. When you take the time to focus on what you want to do and the direction you want your life to take, pretty soon the woes of going through a divorce take a backseat.

●          Taking part in your job, including the people around you, will give you the chance to redefine who and what you want to be. This type of environment can be just the emotional boost you need to face the obstacles of divorce.

Other things that help people to cope with ending their marriage include taking part in counseling or therapy, leaning on friends and family, and taking up old hobbies that were left unattended during the marriage. Whatever method works best for you is the method you should implement into your daily routine. When you are able to shift your focus to things you enjoy, the mechanics of going through a divorce seem to cause less pain. If you are considering divorce, or have been served with divorce papers, call our office for help.

If you have questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

A Couple Of Country Crooners Call It Quits

Rumors have swirled for months about the future of country stars Miranda Lambert and Blake Shelton. It is now official, the pair has not only split, but their divorce is final. The couple released a statement asking for privacy, and confirming that their marriage was at its end. It is common in celebrity divorces for the details to be kept hush hush, and for the couple to make an announcement regarding the demise of their marriage.

Most statements from stars contain the usual request for privacy, and when children are involved there is typically something said about the pair’s intention to continue to co-parent for the benefit of their kids. Co-parenting is also crucial in many divorce cases for people that are not famous. Some of the reasons why include:

● Reassuring the children that they are not the cause for the divorce, and that both parents love them equally.

●When kids see their parents work together, even when those parents are no longer married, a positive life lesson on cooperation and teamwork is taught.

● When parents are able to work with one another for the interests of their kids, the result is that both parents still play an active role in the lives of their children. This can create consistency and give kids a sense of security of their place in the family.

Other issues that arise in not only celebrity divorce cases, but also cases for the ordinary couple include how to fairly divide assets and apportion debt. We can help you to reach a fair settlement, or effectively persuade the Court on your behalf. The legal standard for property division is that it be done in an “equitable” fashion. This does not mean a down the line, 50/50 split of property between the parties, but does require that the split be fair. Several factors go into the mix when the determination as to fairness is made, and we know which ones are most beneficial to your case. Allow us to prepare an argument on your behalf, and pursue remedies that work. Call one of our experienced family law professionals today for help.

For more information about marriage and divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.