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One Way To Keep The Kids Happy In Divorce

By and large the biggest concern of most divorcing parents is how the new family dynamic will impact their children. This is also an issue the Court puts foremost when entering orders in a divorce case, and the general rule is that decisions are made with the best interests of the children taken into consideration. What this means for you is not the same as what it might mean for a friend or family member. So, in order to make sure the plan put in place in your case does not harm your children, you have to be vocal about your kids’ needs. It is also helpful to make every effort to work well with your ex-spouse for the sake of your children. There are several things you can do to make sure your kids are not exposed to the dark side of your split, including keeping disagreements between the adults and avoiding using the children as pawns or leverage for your own gain. For those that are able to make this transition smoothly, the kids usually end up happy and no worse for the wear.

One way to keep your kids happy during, and even after, your divorce can be seen from a celebrity couple that has been getting a lot of press lately. Hilary Duff has made headlines about her split from Mike Comrie, and the news is good. The pair was recently seen enjoying a meal together with their son. The benefits to getting along with your ex, as seen through the eyes of your children, include:

  • Kids learn by the behavior they witness, and when they see their divorced parents getting along as friends it makes it easier to emotionally accept the new family structure.
  • When children see their divorced parents resolving their differences with respect and cooperation, valuable life lessons regarding conflict resolution are taught.
  • Kids of divorce can often times feel they are to “blame” for their parents’ split. But, when the kids witness their parents working together for the benefit of the children these harmful emotions are not given a chance to surface and manifest in undesirable behavior.

The trick is to figure out what works for you and your former spouse. If your kids are older, it helps to include them in important decisions. If you are considering divorce and have questions about how it will impact your kids, call our office. We can help you come up with solutions that fit your family.

 

For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

 

 

Two Tips To Maintain Privacy In Divorce

Even in a world where all you have to do is check your Facebook to learn your neighbor is at the dentist, not everyone wants to have their life played out in public. Celebrities, for example, are notorious for taking measures to ensure an element of privacy is maintained, and you can too. Simply refraining from posting a photo or status update is a good start, but there are other things you can do. And, if you are going through a divorce, it is always a good idea to keep things to yourself, so that the outcome of your case is protected.

A good example of a celebrity couple who has remained relatively low-key is Benji Madden and Cameron Diaz. In early 2016 Madden posted about his wife, and the reaction by some was surprise that the pair had been married. Perhaps it was the short courtship that lead to the little known fact the pair had married, or perhaps it is the way Diaz is known for not being the “marrying type”. Whatever method they used, it seemed to work.

There are a few things an everyday person can do to keep their life private as well. Two tips to maintain privacy in divorce include:

  • Entrust sensitive information only with those on a “need to know” basis. This includes your attorney, and the Judge when asked. While it is tempting to spill all to your best friend or a family member, doing so can mean that you no longer have an expectation of privacy in the things revealed to those people. If there are things you just have to “get off your chest”, or are struggling with emotionally, the help of a trained counselor or therapist is acceptable.
  • Shut down your social media sites, or at least during the divorce, refrain from posting on the sites. It seems like a difficult thing to do given the electronic age we live in, but if you take a break from Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter, you might be surprised at how little you miss those outlets. Without an online forum to turn to for posting things about your private life, you ensure that details you wish to keep to yourself remain within your knowledge only.

Keep in mind things you put out there on social media or other public platforms can be used in your case as evidence. In order to avoid pictures or tweets being misunderstood, simply refrain from posting. If you have questions about this aspect of divorce, or need answers to other questions, call our office today.

If you have questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Two Tips To Maintain Privacy In Divorce

Even in a world where all you have to do is check your Facebook to learn your neighbor is at the dentist, not everyone wants to have their life played out in public. Celebrities, for example, are notorious for taking measures to ensure an element of privacy is maintained, and you can too. Simply refraining from posting a photo or status update is a good start, but there are other things you can do. And, if you are going through a divorce, it is always a good idea to keep things to yourself, so that the outcome of your case is protected.

A good example of a celebrity couple who has remained relatively low-key is Benji Madden and Cameron Diaz. In early 2016 Madden posted about his wife, and the reaction by some was surprise that the pair had been married. Perhaps it was the short courtship that lead to the little known fact the pair had married, or perhaps it is the way Diaz is known for not being the “marrying type”. Whatever method they used, it seemed to work.

There are a few things an everyday person can do to keep their life private as well. Two tips to maintain privacy in divorce include:

  • Entrust sensitive information only with those on a “need to know” basis. This includes your attorney, and the Judge when asked. While it is tempting to spill all to your best friend or a family member, doing so can mean that you no longer have an expectation of privacy in the things revealed to those people. If there are things you just have to “get off your chest”, or are struggling with emotionally, the help of a trained counselor or therapist is acceptable.
  • Shut down your social media sites, or at least during the divorce, refrain from posting on the sites. It seems like a difficult thing to do given the electronic age we live in, but if you take a break from Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter, you might be surprised at how little you miss those outlets. Without an online forum to turn to for posting things about your private life, you ensure that details you wish to keep to yourself remain within your knowledge only.

Keep in mind things you put out there on social media or other public platforms can be used in your case as evidence. In order to avoid pictures or tweets being misunderstood, simply refrain from posting. If you have questions about this aspect of divorce, or need answers to other questions, call our office today.

If you have questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Five Helpful Tips For Getting Over Your Divorce

Everyone reacts differently to going through a divorce. For some couples, the split is a long time coming and they are able to move on quickly. For others, the divorce comes as a complete shock and it can take years to accept the fact the marriage didn’t last. Often there is some middle ground, those instances where one or both of the parties to the case seem to be moving forward with their lives, but then experience minor setbacks. How well you adjust to your post-divorce life depends on the unique characteristics of your personality, but there are some helpful tips when it comes to dealing with the loss of your marriage.

Strangely enough, these tips come from how we view the end of celebrity marriages. For most people, there can be too much of celebrity news, but when the reports offer advice that can be applied to everyday life, the story is worth a second look. Here are five ways you can get over your divorce, from the world of celebrity divorce:

  • Allow yourself to be angry. If you don’t let yourself go through the emotions that are under the surface, those emotions can quickly spiral out of control and prevent you from taking positive steps in the future.
  • Take a close look at whether you are in denial about the end of your marriage. It is natural to have questions about whether divorce is right, but once you move past the denial you are better able to accept the inevitable. In most cases, you are even able to do this without bitterness or a longing for what once was.
  • Don’t try to bargain with yourself, or with your spouse. Trying to change who you are, or make your spouse change, will only end in unhappiness and you will likely end up at the same place later down the road. You can save yourself a lot of heartache by acknowledging who you are, and identifying your needs. If your spouse is unable to meet those needs, no amount of trying to change him or her will get you the desired results and may end up causing resentment and anger.
  • Know that it is OK to be sad, or depressed about the end of the marriage. If you don’t give yourself enough time to grieve you may jump too quickly into the next relationship and repeat the same actions that led to its demise.
  • Accept that the marriage has ended. Once you work through all of the stages of grief, you will finally come to accepting the divorce.

It is crucial to keep in mind that your process is not the same as anyone else’s, and the time it takes you to “get over” the divorce is personal to you. These emotions are natural, but if you find yourself becoming overwhelmed, it is a good idea to speak with a professional or trusted friend. As for the actual case itself, allow us to help. When you put your case in our hands you have one less burden to carry, which can better position you to go through the normal emotions that go along with getting divorced.

 

For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

One Star Weighs In On All The Celebrity Divorces

2015, and in particular the summer of 2015, was the year of celebrity divorce. The world of Hollywood saw more than its fair share of divorce during this time, and no one seemed to be immune. There were those that had long marriages (even by regular standards) end, actors and singers were affected, and some of the splits were soon followed by new love interests. With all of this divorce going around, one might wonder if it was “contagious”, and just which mega-star couple would be the next to file. As the divorce rate in Hollywood rose, one star looked at the situation as her opportunity to reassure her fans that everything in her world was “just fine”.

American Idol winner Carrie Underwood talked to Cosmopolitan magazine and had this to say about the state of her marriage, and her thoughts on the rash of celebrity divorces:

  • While everyone around her seemed to be getting divorced, Underwood says “we are good”.
  • Underwood attributes the health of her marriage, in part, to the fact the pair met after achieving fame and fortune.
  • Giving each other the space they need to work, or to do what makes them happy as individuals, is also another key to Underwood’s successful marriage.

In the real world, much like in the celebrity world, not all stories share the same happy ending as Underwood and her husband. Divorce does happen, and when it does it can seem almost unbearable. For some, the thought of ending their marriage is an overwhelming feeling, but with the right guidance you can get through this real life event. We have experience helping people pinpoint the issues that matter the most when getting divorced, and aggressively pursuing remedies that are in line with those issues. Whether you are concerned about who will get the house, what bills get paid by which spouse, where the kids will live, and even who gets the family pet; we can help. Call our office today and speak with one of our qualified family professionals for more information on divorce. Our goal is to develop a strategy that meets your needs, and get the results you deserve.

For more information about marriage and divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Five Celebrity Divorce Secrets

If you are a superstar there is likely very little about your life that the general public does not know. The unfortunate part about this is that much of the information published is questionable, and not every piece of data comes from a reliable source. Because so many people follow their favorite actor or actress, especially during life changing circumstances such as marriage or divorce, it is interesting to look at how the lives of the rich and famous compare and contrast with our own. While celebrities frequently engage in activities most of us are not able to do, there are some life events that are common to people from all walks of life. Divorce is one of these areas, and even though the stars are subject to the same family laws as you and I, there are some differences.

Five things you may not have known about celebrity divorces include:

• The timing of a divorce filing by a celebrity is dictated by the press. In years past it was a good idea to file on a Friday, but in more recent cases filing around a holiday has seemed to draw less attention to the case.
• In heavily star populated Los Angeles County; the documents filed are public record. This means the information contained in the divorce papers are easily accessible to tabloids and other media outlets.
• The decision to file two cases at one time can work to keep attention off of both filings. When more than one high profile case is filed at the same time it is hard for the press to keep up with both matters. This can lead to a decrease in the intensity the media gives a case.
• A common tactic among the stars is to hire a private Judge to decide their issues. This helps with privacy concerns and can keep the case out of the public eye.
• Aside from filing around the holidays, most stars file their cases after the awards season ends. This gives them someone to attend events with as well as helps to keep the rumor mill at a standstill.

We understand celebrities are not the only types of couples that seek privacy during their divorce, and we work hard to take whatever steps are available under the law to protect your right to privacy. In some cases this might mean seeking a protective order over sensitive information or documents, or asking that the Court seal the record. Whatever your needs, we are here to help. If you are considering divorce or have been served with divorce papers, call our office today.

For more information about marriage and divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

When Real Life And Entertainment Collide: Blake And Miranda Take On The CMA’s

When the news that Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert were ending their marriage, country music fans across the nation may have felt like they were living out the lyrics to a country music song by crying in their beers. Then the rumors began swirling that Blake and his The Voice co-star Gwen Stefani were an item. It was not long before those rumors were proven to be true and since that time fans have been wondering what it would be like if Blake and Gwen bumped into Miranda. Enter the CMA’s, where both Blake and Miranda had appearances and every fan’s questions about interaction between the two, and whether Gwen would be there too, were answered.

Tabloid reports started by claiming Lambert would bring her new beau with her to help soften the blow of possibly running into Blake and Gwen. This is an approach that is not only used by divorced celebrities, but also by everyday divorced couples looking to get through the awkward circumstance of seeing their ex with a new flame. While this may work for some, there are other things you can do to prepare yourself emotionally for seeing your ex-spouse with someone new, such as:

● Be the bigger person by being nice. A polite greeting and graceful exit will leave you feeling empowered and ready to move forward with your life.

● Avoid turning on the waterworks, if you feel yourself becoming emotional it is a good idea to say a fast goodbye and walk away.

● Resist the urge to bring up the past by asking questions or trying to reminisce.

If you are not quite ready for a chance encounter with your ex, the best thing you can do is to avoid the event or a certain area of an event where your ex is likely to be present. This approach does not suggest you give up your future by staying home while your ex moves on, but make sure the time is right before taking the chance you will have to sit next to your ex and a new romantic partner if you are not ready. That way, when you are emotionally ready to face your ex and a new love, you can do so without resorting to behavior you may later regret.
For more information about marriage and divorce, consult a qualified legal professional.

Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Why Same Sex Marriages Aren’t Immune To Divorce

Earlier this year the United States Supreme Court made history when it legalized same sex marriage in all fifty states. Cheers from LGBT communities across the country were heard as hundreds upon hundreds of same sex couples took the step to legalize their relationship. But, as with any marriage, problems can arise and those problems can lead to divorce. A same sex marriage is not immune to the possibility of divorce, and when that happens the same issues that heterosexual couples face must be addressed. These issues include coming up with a fair and equitable division of assets, debts, figuring out an amount for spousal support, and developing parenting plans that include reasonable visitation and adequate child support.

A recent split by a same sex celebrity couple proves the fact that all marriages, regardless of sexual orientation, can be hit hard by divorce. Iron Chef star Cat Cora has sought to dissolve her union with her partner of 17 years. The famous chef has said the following of her split from Jennifer Cora:

  • The couple share a commitment to raising their children in a loving and peaceful environment.
  • The celebrity chef was quoted as saying “In love, there is a season, a reason, and a lifetime”.

    In other news on the case it is reported that Cat is asking for joint physical custody of the pair’s four sons while Jennifer Cora is asking not only for full custody but also spousal support. While no one goes into a marriage thinking it will end in divorce, the multitude of celebrity splits and every day divorces is living proof that not all marriages go the distance. Information about celebrity couples asking for different things in their divorce, like the requests for custody in the Cora case, shows that even when a couple has the best of intentions things can quickly change direction from where you thought you would start your divorce process. If you have questions about marriage and divorce, call our office for help. We can give you information on what to expect during a divorce, so you are prepared and will know what to expect. Having an idea about what you want will help you to develop a game plan, and can help you reach compromise in other areas while staying true to yourself and your needs.

    For more information about divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

  • Four Reasons To Be Careful When Hiring At Home Help

    Let’s face it, you are busy. Your spouse is busy. Your kids are busy, and so are their friends. Most families have a lot on their plate, and one easy fix is to hire a housekeeper or a nanny to help out around the house and to run kids back and forth from school activities and sports. It goes without saying that you have to be diligent about who you hire for help within your home, especially if this person will spend a lot of time with and have an influence on your children. Aside from making sure your at home help is dependable, have a clean criminal record, are good with your kids, and can get the job done as you expect it is also smart to take into account the possibility your spouse will form an attachment to outsiders that become part of your “family”.

    Four good reasons to be careful when you hire someone to help out around the house include:

  • Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner: the celebrity couple is divorcing amidst rumors Ben had an extra-marital relationship with the nanny
  • Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver: the political power couple put an end to their marriage when it was revealed Arnold had fathered a child with the nanny.
  • Jude Law: Law’s marriage also came to an end during a scandal involving his nanny.
  • Ethan Hawke and Uma Thurman: Thurman divorced Hawke some years ago, and claimed Hawke had been intimate with the couple’s nanny.
  • Our position is not that you should hire help that meet a certain physical appearance requirement, but that you should take care when deciding who will be in your home. If, after you hire a nanny or other at home worker, you see signs that your spouse has become attracted to your employee, take action. Your first step should be to talk it over with your spouse and try to reach a solution to the issue. However, if you are unable to do so and find yourself staring down the possibility of divorce, call us for help. We focus on family law matters and can give you the advice you need to make educated and well thought out decisions.

    For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

    One Way To Fix A Marriage Mistake

    It is no secret that marriage is hard, and when tough times arise a couple can either find ways to reconcile their differences or move on from one another. This is usually done through separation or divorce, and in many instances can be kept private. But if you are a celebrity and constantly in the spotlight, all of your actions are subject to public scrutiny, including your mistakes. This can make it hard to focus on what needs doing when going through a divorce, and some celebrities o handle the added media attention in a way that makes fixing a marriage mistake a little easier.

    One example of a celebrity that has been able to laugh at herself and find creative ways to make the mistakes she made in her marriage less stressful is Kaley Cuoco. The star recently opened up to Ellen DeGeneres, and had this to say about her split from Ryan Sweeting:

    • The actress is in a good emotional place, and moving on with her life.
    • A large moth tattoo now covers up a tattoo mistake Cuoco got when she married Sweeting, which was a tattoo of the pair’s wedding date.

    Whatever mistakes you think you have made in your marriage, there are remedies. The key is to identify your needs, and then work towards solutions that will meet those needs. Our experienced staff of family law attorneys can help by talking over your case with you, and pinpointing the most important issues. Together we will help you develop a strategy that includes workable solutions for your entire family. When necessary, we will help guide you towards help needed from other professionals such as a financial planner or skilled therapist or counselor. Our goal is to put your kids’ needs first, so their lives remain as normal as possible, while aggressively pursuing a final outcome that protects your interests. This includes fighting for a fair and equitable distribution of property, a custody and visitation schedule that is not disruptive to your routine, and repayment of debts that is in line with the parties’ financial situation. Call us today to learn more about divorce, and let us help make the process as painless as possible for you.

     

    Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today. We have helped others through the process of divorce and are here to help you too.