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Three Ways Your Divorce Could Be Worse

Getting divorced is never easy, even if you are still friends with your spouse. The emotions that go along with ending a marriage, the financial struggles that accompany separating one household into two, and the toll taken on kids during divorce is enough to make anyone throw up their hands for help. But even taking all of these things into account, it is possible to reach solutions that work and to move on with your life. The key is to focus on what matters the most to you and your family, and learn to compromise where necessary. We can help you by looking at your needs and the facts of your case, then providing aggressive representation that works.

And, if you need a little pick me up during the times when divorce seems too much to take, consider those that have it a bit harder. The world of celebrity is filled with spotlights, cameras, and little privacy. The fact that the entire world knows your personal business is enough, but in some cases the small details add up to giant heartache. Here are three ways your case could be worse, taken from some of the more talked about celebrity splits of last year:

• A short lived marriage, where one party makes the majority of the money can create feelings of resentment and add to the pressure to find quick solutions. This was seen in the divorce of Kaley Cuoco and Ryan Sweeting, with reports that Cuoco demanded Sweeting begin earning his own living.
• Starting a new relationship before the divorce is final can add to the emotional trauma that goes along with getting divorced. While this tactic may work for some, Gwen Stefani and Blake Shelton are perfect examples; it is usually not advisable to jump into a new relationship too quickly.
• Stepping out with a new flame while trying to keep it under wraps from your spouse can also spell disaster for a marriage and make the divorce take a heated turn. This is what happened in the case of Hillary Duff and Mike Comrie, and also with Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick (although Kardashian and Disick are not technically married the pair do have kids together and have a long history of a tumultuous romantic coupling).

We offer these examples, not as a way of poking fun at others or making light of their experiences, but as a way to demonstrate the unique nature of each case. The things that work for you will not always work for the next person and by the same token the things that cause you trauma will not necessarily lead to the same result for a friend. We understand the little nuances of each case and look for solutions that take your specific facts into consideration. If you are thinking about divorce but have questions about certain things, call us to learn the answers. Together we will develop a strategy that fits the facts and meets your needs.

For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Three Ways Faith Can Help During Divorce

Anyone who has ever seen Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar know they are a couple who professes to have strong spiritual beliefs. The reality TV couple shot to fame with their show on TLC about how many kids they have, and how they manage a large family. What started out for the Duggars as a way to show the world how to raise a big family has turned into a question of what they claim to be strong Christian values, given their son Josh recently made headlines of his own for acts of abuse in his younger years. The public was outraged that Josh had abused some of his sisters while growing up, and that he had also engaged in extra marital relationships. The controversy has led to speculation that the Duggar’s way of life may not be all they claim.
Despite the rumors, it seems Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar are not headed for divorce, and they cite their faith as what has kept them together.

Some of the ways the Duggars say faith has kept them together, may also offer insight into ways you can make it through divorce if your decision is not to stay together. This includes the following three ways “faith” can help during divorce:
● Whatever your spiritual beliefs, the stronger those beliefs are for you personally and independently of your spouse will help you to find ways to get through the tough emotions that often accompany divorce.
● While forgiving your spouse for what you perceive their role to be in the demise of the marriage, it is just as important to identify areas where you may have contributed to the path to divorce and also forgive yourself. Divorce offers you a clean slate, and letting go of guilt or feelings of failure is an essential part to a fresh start.
● Avoid the urge to badmouth your spouse, especially if kids are involved. When you resort to name calling or placing blame, your children will see that it is OK to engage in hurtful behavior. However, if you are able to avoid falling into this emotional trap, your kids will learn respect.

Divorce is not easy, but it does not have to be impossible. Remembering that the focus is on getting to an end result that allows the parties to move on emotionally and financially is the key. We can help. Call us today for more information.

For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Celebrity Couples Who Reportedly Won’t Go The Distance

The summer of 2015 gave us a lot of back to back divorces by celebrities; there was Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck, Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale, Reba McEntire split from her husband, and Blake Shelton’s marriage to Miranda Lambert came to an end. There were also some marriages though, most notably Jennifer Aniston and her longtime boyfriend Justin Theroux. With all of these weddings and divorces, it makes you wonder which celebrity couples have staying power, and which ones will eventually be single again.

A list of the most likely celebrity couples that won’t last includes some interesting choices; they are:

  • Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. We already saw Kim’s marriage to Kris Humphries end in divorce just 72 days after the pair said “I do”, and Kim is also divorced from Damon Thomas. This history puts a huge target on Kardashian’s back, and the jury of public opinion is that her marriage to Kanye won’t last either.
  • Recently married Aniston and Theroux are also on the list of celebrities least likely to make their marriage last, and their inclusion on this list can best be chalked up to Aniston’s previous relationships.
  • J. Lo and Casper Smart seem an unlikely match, given the difference in age and career positon. Smart is a backup dancer for the singer, and her history in this area is not good. Back in 2002 Lopez divorced another one of her backup dancers, Cris Judd, after just under a year of marriage.
  • Katy Perry and John Mayer land on the list for obvious reasons. Mayer has seen his fair share of Hollywood romances fizzle, and so his time with Perry will probably be short.

It must be hard to see your relationship making headlines, for not so good news, and this can also contribute to the demise of a marriage. Getting married is easy, but staying married takes hard work. And, celebrities, just like the rest of us can make their fair share of mistakes. The key is to recognize when a marriage has reached its end, and make plans to move forward with your life in a positive way. We can help you take the steps you need to a successful divorce, and a happy post-divorce life. Because every case is different, not every case will have the same issues.  Contact one of our experienced family law attorneys today to get answers to the questions that matter most to you.

 

For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

A Lesson In Divorce From Two Celebrity Singers

Going through a divorce is difficult, even if you remain friendly with your soon to be ex-spouse. But, there are some things you can do to help you cope with the range of emotions that accompany ending a marriage. When you focus on reaching a finalization of your case and moving forward with your life, you might be surprised at how well-adjusted you become. While it can be hard to find places and information that is helpful, one unlikely source is becoming more popular: the word of celebrity divorce. In most cases when celebrities divorce, the media reports provide a quick lesson in what not to do. However, there are a pair of celebrity singers who are recently going through divorce, and the everyday person could learn a thing or two from these two songbirds.

By now it is no secret that Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert have called it quits, nor has it been kept under wraps that Blake’s co-star on The Voice, Gwen Stefani is ending her marriage to fellow songster Gavin Rossdale.  Here are some takeaways from the divorces of these two superstars:

  • Throwing yourself into your work, or a project you hold dear, can be a good distraction. When you take the time to focus on what you want to do and the direction you want your life to take, pretty soon the woes of going through a divorce take a backseat.
  • Taking part in your job, including the people around you, will give you the chance to redefine who and what you want to be. This type of environment can be just the emotional boost you need to face the obstacles of divorce.

Other things that help people to cope with ending their marriage include taking part in counseling or therapy, leaning on friends and family, and taking up old hobbies that were left unattended during the marriage. Whatever method works best for you is the method you should implement into your daily routine. When you are able to shift your focus to things you enjoy, the mechanics of going through a divorce seem to cause less pain. If you are considering divorce, or have been served with divorce papers, call our office for help.

If you have questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

More Kardashian News

The saga of Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick is one that has been playing out in the media for years. The couple has been on again and off again repeatedly, and has recently announced another split. Is this just another case of celebrities that are unable to make it work, or is there more to this story? And, is there a chance the two might reconcile?

The International Business Times reported on the developing story, and had this to say:

●          Kourtney may have had a change of heart about the split, and some sources say she is considering getting back together with Disick.

●          Any reconciliation would require significant behavior changes on the part of Scott, namely with what Kardashian and many others believe to be a drinking and substance abuse problem.

Perhaps this latest split was nothing more than an attempt at tough love, a way for Kardashian to “force” Scott to grow up. If so, the move may prove beneficial to the couple’s children. As it stands now, both parents are reportedly spending time with the kids and there have not yet been discussions of custody. However, if reconciliation is not possible, a long and heated custody battle may take place. As with any domestic matter, the Court will look at what is in the best interests of the children, even though the pair are unmarried. When issues of child custody and visitation surface, clear evidence of what is best for the kids must be provided to the Court in order for decisions to be made that work. This is true for a celebrity couple, as well as for your case.

How you go about deciding what evidence will best show your position depends on the facts of your case. In some instances, the Court will take into consideration the wishes of the children. But, this most frequently happens with older kids. Other factors the Court takes into account are who provides the majority of the care for the kids, the emotional and financial stability of the parties, and how strong the bond is between parent and child. In today’s technological age, the Court might also look to social media or other online sources to determine which parent will provide a home that best meets the needs of the children. In Kourtney and Scott’s case, you can bet there won’t be any shortage of that type of evidence! For answers about your specific case, call our office today.

For more information about marriage and divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

 

 

Celebrity Couples Who Reportedly Won’t Go The Distance

The summer of 2015 gave us a lot of back to back divorces by celebrities; there was Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck, Christina Aguilera and Gavin Rossdale, Reba McEntire split from her husband, and Blake Shelton’s marriage to Miranda Lambert came to an end. There were also some marriages though, most notably Jennifer Aniston and her longtime boyfriend Justin Theroux. With all of these weddings and divorces, it makes you wonder which celebrity couples have staying power, and which ones will eventually be single again.

A list of the most likely celebrity couples that won’t last includes some interesting choices; they are:

●          Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. We already saw Kim’s marriage to Kris Humphries end in divorce just 72 days after the pair said “I do”, and Kim is also divorced from Damon Thomas. This history puts a huge target on Kardashian’s back, and the jury of public opinion is that her marriage to Kanye won’t last either.

●          Recently married Aniston and Theroux are also on the list of celebrities least likely to make their marriage last, and their inclusion on this list can best be chalked up to Aniston’s previous relationships.

●          J. Lo and Casper Smart seem an unlikely match, given the difference in age and career positon. Smart is a backup dancer for the singer, and her history in this area is not good. Back in 2002 Lopez divorced another one of her backup dancers, Cris Judd, after just under a year of marriage.

●          Katy Perry and John Mayer land on the list for obvious reasons. Mayer has seen his fair share of Hollywood romances fizzle, and so his time with Perry will probably be short.

It must be hard to see your relationship making headlines, for not so good news, and this can also contribute to the demise of a marriage. Getting married is easy, but staying married takes hard work. And, celebrities, just like the rest of us can make their fair share of mistakes. The key is to recognize when a marriage has reached its end, and make plans to move forward with your life in a positive way. We can help you take the steps you need to a successful divorce, and a happy post-divorce life. Because every case is different, not every case will have the same issues.  Contact one of our experienced family law attorneys today to get answers to the questions that matter most to you.

 

For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

A Lesson In Divorce From Two Celebrity Singers

Going through a divorce is difficult, even if you remain friendly with your soon to be ex-spouse. But, there are some things you can do to help you cope with the range of emotions that accompany ending a marriage. When you focus on reaching a finalization of your case and moving forward with your life, you might be surprised at how well-adjusted you become. While it can be hard to find places and information that is helpful, one unlikely source is becoming more popular: the word of celebrity divorce. In most cases when celebrities divorce, the media reports provide a quick lesson in what not to do. However, there are a pair of celebrity singers who are recently going through divorce, and the everyday person could learn a thing or two from these two songbirds.

By now it is no secret that Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert have called it quits, nor has it been kept under wraps that Blake’s co-star on The Voice, Gwen Stefani is ending her marriage to Gavin Rossdale.  Here are some takeaways from the divorces of these two superstars:

●          Throwing yourself into your work, or a project you hold dear, can be a good distraction. When you take the time to focus on what you want to do and the direction you want your life to take, pretty soon the woes of going through a divorce take a backseat.

●          Taking part in your job, including the people around you, will give you the chance to redefine who and what you want to be. This type of environment can be just the emotional boost you need to face the obstacles of divorce.

Other things that help people to cope with ending their marriage include taking part in counseling or therapy, leaning on friends and family, and taking up old hobbies that were left unattended during the marriage. Whatever method works best for you is the method you should implement into your daily routine. When you are able to shift your focus to things you enjoy, the mechanics of going through a divorce seem to cause less pain. If you are considering divorce, or have been served with divorce papers, call our office for help.

If you have questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

A Couple Of Country Crooners Call It Quits

Rumors have swirled for months about the future of country stars Miranda Lambert and Blake Shelton. It is now official, the pair has not only split, but their divorce is final. The couple released a statement asking for privacy, and confirming that their marriage was at its end. It is common in celebrity divorces for the details to be kept hush hush, and for the couple to make an announcement regarding the demise of their marriage.

Most statements from stars contain the usual request for privacy, and when children are involved there is typically something said about the pair’s intention to continue to co-parent for the benefit of their kids. Co-parenting is also crucial in many divorce cases for people that are not famous. Some of the reasons why include:

● Reassuring the children that they are not the cause for the divorce, and that both parents love them equally.

●When kids see their parents work together, even when those parents are no longer married, a positive life lesson on cooperation and teamwork is taught.

● When parents are able to work with one another for the interests of their kids, the result is that both parents still play an active role in the lives of their children. This can create consistency and give kids a sense of security of their place in the family.

Other issues that arise in not only celebrity divorce cases, but also cases for the ordinary couple include how to fairly divide assets and apportion debt. We can help you to reach a fair settlement, or effectively persuade the Court on your behalf. The legal standard for property division is that it be done in an “equitable” fashion. This does not mean a down the line, 50/50 split of property between the parties, but does require that the split be fair. Several factors go into the mix when the determination as to fairness is made, and we know which ones are most beneficial to your case. Allow us to prepare an argument on your behalf, and pursue remedies that work. Call one of our experienced family law professionals today for help.

For more information about marriage and divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

An Explanation Of “Work Spouses” From a Celebrity’s Point Of View

Most of us spend most of our time at work, and the relationships we form on the job can be some of the most important relationships in our lives. A lot of people leave their home and their spouse every morning, and go to work and spend their day with their “work spouse”. This term is used to describe the person at work you spend the most time with, and go to for help with projects or when the boss is making unreasonable demands. For celebrities, a “work spouse” can often take on the role of a “real spouse”, at least for the movie screen. When actors play married couples, it can be hard not to cross the line in real life too. But, it happens all the time and transitioning from a “work spouse” to a real life relationship can be avoided when put in its proper perspective.

Information from stars Bradley Cooper and Jennifer Lawrence shed light on the “work spouse” issue:

● Clearly defined boundaries must be established, and followed, in order to keep the relationship professional.

●Understanding the relationship is related to work only helps to keep expectations in check.

● When spending time outside the office with your “work spouse”, be sure to include friends and your real life spouse in order to avoid the potential for inappropriate behavior.

When you allow your personal life to be impacted by decisions you are making at work, things can get messy. Remember that your “work spouse” is the person you most easily identify with while at work, but that your at home spouse is the person you’ve chosen to commit your life to for the long term. While some people spend their entire life at one job, the more frequent circumstance is that job switches take place regularly. Keep in mind your job may only be temporary, and your home life is permanent. If you are able to differentiate between work and home, you will be able to keep these aspects of your life separate and only allow them to intermingle when you wish.

For more information about marriage and divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.