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Two Ways Money Trouble Leads To Divorce, Even For A Celebrity

With the recent FX series American Crime Story: The People vs. O.J. Simpson, the country’s love/hate relationship with the “trial of the century” and the cast of characters involved is at an all-time high. Searches for “bloody glove”, “Kato Kaelin”, “Nicole Brown Simpson”, and “Ron Goldman” are high on the recent search list of a lot of people’s computers and smartphones. One of the most interesting players in the OJ trial was Bob Kardashian, OJ’s friend and one of the members of the “dream team”. While Bob passed away some 13 years ago, he left behind a legacy and a host of reality stars in his kids and ex-wife Kris Jenner. Of the Kardashian children, some would say Kim is the most visible so it should come as no surprise that her every move is documented.

One of the more recent stories about Kim involves her often talked about marriage to Kanye West. The pair have reportedly been on the brink of divorce time and time again, and this time one of the reports of an impending divorce cites money as the reason. One story claims Kim has had enough of Kanye’s spending and it calling it quits over money issues. This is not an unfamiliar story, even to a non-celebrity couple, and it is a common belief that money is the number one cause of most divorces. Here are two ways money troubles can lead to divorce, even for a celebrity:

● The stress that comes with being unable to pay bills, due to overspending or simply not making enough to maintain a desired lifestyle, can lead to arguing over financial responsibilities between a couple. When a couple is trying to handle paying the bills without enough money, and is unable to talk about solutions without escalation the stress of not having enough money is increased. For many couples it is too difficult to overcome this level of anxiety, and divorce is the only answer. Sometimes separating is the only way to put the parties back on a level playing field and give them the chance to start over emotionally and financially.
● When one spouse makes significantly more than the other, conflict about how money is spent comes into play. No one likes to work hard for their paycheck, only to see it exit the bank account as quickly as it was deposited. This type of earning and spending pattern can lead to resentment, which if left unchecked can cause a couple to end their marriage in order to regain control over their lives.

Another way money becomes involved during divorce is when the parties are required to come to a financial agreement or settlement. We understand the need to be able to support yourself and your children after divorce and work hard to make sure you get what you deserve. Call us for answers to your question about finances, and how divorce can change your financial future.
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Three Ways Faith Can Help During Divorce

Anyone who has ever seen Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar know they are a couple who professes to have strong spiritual beliefs. The reality TV couple shot to fame with their show on TLC about how many kids they have, and how they manage a large family. What started out for the Duggars as a way to show the world how to raise a big family has turned into a question of what they claim to be strong Christian values, given their son Josh recently made headlines of his own for acts of abuse in his younger years. The public was outraged that Josh had abused some of his sisters while growing up, and that he had also engaged in extra marital relationships. The controversy has led to speculation that the Duggar’s way of life may not be all they claim.
Despite the rumors, it seems Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar are not headed for divorce, and they cite their faith as what has kept them together.

Some of the ways the Duggars say faith has kept them together, may also offer insight into ways you can make it through divorce if your decision is not to stay together. This includes the following three ways “faith” can help during divorce:
● Whatever your spiritual beliefs, the stronger those beliefs are for you personally and independently of your spouse will help you to find ways to get through the tough emotions that often accompany divorce.
● While forgiving your spouse for what you perceive their role to be in the demise of the marriage, it is just as important to identify areas where you may have contributed to the path to divorce and also forgive yourself. Divorce offers you a clean slate, and letting go of guilt or feelings of failure is an essential part to a fresh start.
● Avoid the urge to badmouth your spouse, especially if kids are involved. When you resort to name calling or placing blame, your children will see that it is OK to engage in hurtful behavior. However, if you are able to avoid falling into this emotional trap, your kids will learn respect.

Divorce is not easy, but it does not have to be impossible. Remembering that the focus is on getting to an end result that allows the parties to move on emotionally and financially is the key. We can help. Call us today for more information.

For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

When Real Life And Entertainment Collide: Blake And Miranda Take On The CMA’s

When the news that Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert were ending their marriage, country music fans across the nation may have felt like they were living out the lyrics to a country music song by crying in their beers. Then the rumors began swirling that Blake and his The Voice co-star Gwen Stefani were an item. It was not long before those rumors were proven to be true and since that time fans have been wondering what it would be like if Blake and Gwen bumped into Miranda. Enter the CMA’s, where both Blake and Miranda had appearances and every fan’s questions about interaction between the two, and whether Gwen would be there too, were answered.

Tabloid reports started by claiming Lambert would bring her new beau with her to help soften the blow of possibly running into Blake and Gwen. This is an approach that is not only used by divorced celebrities, but also by everyday divorced couples looking to get through the awkward circumstance of seeing their ex with a new flame. While this may work for some, there are other things you can do to prepare yourself emotionally for seeing your ex-spouse with someone new, such as:

● Be the bigger person by being nice. A polite greeting and graceful exit will leave you feeling empowered and ready to move forward with your life.

● Avoid turning on the waterworks, if you feel yourself becoming emotional it is a good idea to say a fast goodbye and walk away.

● Resist the urge to bring up the past by asking questions or trying to reminisce.

If you are not quite ready for a chance encounter with your ex, the best thing you can do is to avoid the event or a certain area of an event where your ex is likely to be present. This approach does not suggest you give up your future by staying home while your ex moves on, but make sure the time is right before taking the chance you will have to sit next to your ex and a new romantic partner if you are not ready. That way, when you are emotionally ready to face your ex and a new love, you can do so without resorting to behavior you may later regret.
For more information about marriage and divorce, consult a qualified legal professional.

Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

These Six Things Might Signal Divorce

There is no one reason marriages end, but there are indicators along the way. Being in tune with your relationship is vital to its success, and the same is true if you are trying to figure out if divorce is on your horizon. The more signals that something is amiss that you can identify, the better chance you have of repairing your relationship. But at the same time, if divorce is the answer, knowing what to look for along the way may help the process easier to accept.

Six things that might signal divorce is in your future include:

  • A lack of communication about things that are important to you, or an inability to communicate effectively so that disputes are resolved. It is inevitable that conflict will arise during a marriage, but if you feel your voice is not being heard or you and your spouse are continually unable to find solutions that work, the survival chances for your marriage are low.
  • A lack of intimacy.
  • Failing to share your thoughts and emotions with your spouse, which can create a distance gap that is too far to overcome.
  • Feelings of dislike for your spouse.
  • Taking too much of an interest in things outside of the marriage, even a healthy hobby. While it is important to maintain an identity of your own, if you take on too much outside of your marriage, your spouse can quickly feel as though he or she is no longer an important part of your life.
  • Living like you are a single person, which might mean too many nights out with friends, or maintaining a separate residence. If you behave as if you are single, chances are you will become single soon.

    Of course every case is different, and the things that signal divorce for you may not include any of the above. But there is one thing that is consistent across the board when a divorce is filed, and that is the need for fair resolution of the issues. Whether you have kids or are childless, have accumulated significant assets over a lengthy marriage or are relatively newlywed, or are on a second or subsequent marriage it is important to get results that work. Call our office for more information, and to find out what you can expect during YOUR case.

    For more information about divorce, contact our office today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

     

  • Why Same Sex Marriages Aren’t Immune To Divorce

    Earlier this year the United States Supreme Court made history when it legalized same sex marriage in all fifty states. Cheers from LGBT communities across the country were heard as hundreds upon hundreds of same sex couples took the step to legalize their relationship. But, as with any marriage, problems can arise and those problems can lead to divorce. A same sex marriage is not immune to the possibility of divorce, and when that happens the same issues that heterosexual couples face must be addressed. These issues include coming up with a fair and equitable division of assets, debts, figuring out an amount for spousal support, and developing parenting plans that include reasonable visitation and adequate child support.

    A recent split by a same sex celebrity couple proves the fact that all marriages, regardless of sexual orientation, can be hit hard by divorce. Iron Chef star Cat Cora has sought to dissolve her union with her partner of 17 years. The famous chef has said the following of her split from Jennifer Cora:

  • The couple share a commitment to raising their children in a loving and peaceful environment.
  • The celebrity chef was quoted as saying “In love, there is a season, a reason, and a lifetime”.

    In other news on the case it is reported that Cat is asking for joint physical custody of the pair’s four sons while Jennifer Cora is asking not only for full custody but also spousal support. While no one goes into a marriage thinking it will end in divorce, the multitude of celebrity splits and every day divorces is living proof that not all marriages go the distance. Information about celebrity couples asking for different things in their divorce, like the requests for custody in the Cora case, shows that even when a couple has the best of intentions things can quickly change direction from where you thought you would start your divorce process. If you have questions about marriage and divorce, call our office for help. We can give you information on what to expect during a divorce, so you are prepared and will know what to expect. Having an idea about what you want will help you to develop a game plan, and can help you reach compromise in other areas while staying true to yourself and your needs.

    For more information about divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

  • Four Reasons To Be Careful When Hiring At Home Help

    Let’s face it, you are busy. Your spouse is busy. Your kids are busy, and so are their friends. Most families have a lot on their plate, and one easy fix is to hire a housekeeper or a nanny to help out around the house and to run kids back and forth from school activities and sports. It goes without saying that you have to be diligent about who you hire for help within your home, especially if this person will spend a lot of time with and have an influence on your children. Aside from making sure your at home help is dependable, have a clean criminal record, are good with your kids, and can get the job done as you expect it is also smart to take into account the possibility your spouse will form an attachment to outsiders that become part of your “family”.

    Four good reasons to be careful when you hire someone to help out around the house include:

  • Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner: the celebrity couple is divorcing amidst rumors Ben had an extra-marital relationship with the nanny
  • Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver: the political power couple put an end to their marriage when it was revealed Arnold had fathered a child with the nanny.
  • Jude Law: Law’s marriage also came to an end during a scandal involving his nanny.
  • Ethan Hawke and Uma Thurman: Thurman divorced Hawke some years ago, and claimed Hawke had been intimate with the couple’s nanny.
  • Our position is not that you should hire help that meet a certain physical appearance requirement, but that you should take care when deciding who will be in your home. If, after you hire a nanny or other at home worker, you see signs that your spouse has become attracted to your employee, take action. Your first step should be to talk it over with your spouse and try to reach a solution to the issue. However, if you are unable to do so and find yourself staring down the possibility of divorce, call us for help. We focus on family law matters and can give you the advice you need to make educated and well thought out decisions.

    For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

    The Difference Between Men And Women When Getting Divorced

    We all know that men and women are different in several significant ways. Just walk down any self-help aisle at a local library or book store and you will see volumes of books on the subject, full of helpful hints on how to better understand the opposite sex. Knowing that men and women are wired differently may help you to understand how to approach your divorce case without conflict. If you are able to do that, you will be much more satisfied with your case and will be able to maintain a level of sanity that allows you to keep your stress level low. These results are priceless because the benefits to your emotional state and that of your kids is immeasurable when you are able to remain calm and happy.

     

    Apart from the emotional differences between husband and wife, here are some interesting statistics on divorce and gender:

    ● Twice as many divorces are filed by women as are filed by men.

    ● Custody is awarded to mothers a whopping 90% of the time!

    ● Men are more likely to remarry after a divorce than are women.

    One of the most surprising stats is that men tend to have a more difficult time adjusting their emotions after a divorce. This may be a cause of why men remarry quicker, and could also be attributed to a man’s need for intimacy. It may also be a reason why once the divorce is imitated, men are more apt to try and reconcile rather than go through with the divorce. Regardless of your gender or reasons for divorce, you need to protect your assets and kids. Making sure property division is equitable and that the child custody and visitation schedule is fair is key. Being able to adjust to being single again is much easier when the divorce terms are satisfactory. We can help you transition from married to single, and make sure your rights are protected while doing so.

    For more information about the decision to get divorced, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call the Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

     

    Will Use Of Legalized Marijuana Impact Child Custody?

    Nearly two years ago neighboring states voted to legalize marijuana for medicinal purposes. That movement has made its way across the county and other states have also weighed in on the issue. While there may be criminal law aspects of these decisions, what no one has yet mentioned is how use of legalized marijuana might impact child custody and visitation matters. The Courts award custody and grant visitation based on what is in the best interests of the children, and if your spouse is able to convince the Court use of medicinal marijuana harms your kids there is a real possibility that you will not be given custody.

    The law is clear that the best interests standard is the one used when deciding issues about kids. Factors the Court considers are:

     

    ● The ability of the parent to care for the child. This includes emotional as well as financial support.

    ● The willingness of the custodial parent to cooperate with the non-custodial parent when making legal decisions about their kids.

    ● The child’s preference.

    Your kids safety and well-being is our number one concern, and we work hard to make sure their interests are protected. Presenting evidence to the Court that shows what is best for your kids requires thoughtful analysis and careful review of all the facts of your case. We listen to your wishes and work with you to develop plans that meet the needs of your family. Call today for a review of your case.

    For answers to your questions about divorce, consult our office. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call the Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

    A Short List Of Common Causes Of Divorce

    Every case is different and the reasons people decide to end their marriage are as varied as the people that file for divorce. Some reasons are based on fundamental differences on important issues such as child rearing, religious beliefs, or money matters. While there is no “blame” placed on either party when a divorce is filed, there are some common causes of divorce. Knowing what is likely to lead to divorce may help prevent it, and may also help you through the process when divorce is inevitable.

    The Huffington Post has compiled a list of the top 25 things that lead to divorce, below is a short list of the most common:

    ● Taking your spouse for granted during marriage can lead to feelings of inferiority and cause one of the parties to the marriage to feel devalued and thus not an important part of the marriage. When one party feels as if their views and feelings don’t matter, it can lead to an emotional disconnect between the couple that leads to divorceHow well the parents work together regarding issues involving their kids.

    ● Failing to communicate effectively will often times lead to a breakdown of the relationship that can cause divorce.

    ● Expecting your spouse to change or to adopt your opinions can cause conflict that leads to divorce.

    ● Refusing to take accountability for your actions.

     

    When a couple no longer connects emotionally or physically real danger for the relationship lies ahead. If you are unable to avoid some of the common missteps that typically lead to divorce, having an understanding of how you got there will help you get through the case. We can help you come to terms with the end of your marriage so you are better prepared for healthy relationships in the future.

    For answers to your questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call the Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

    Out Of State Child Visitation Concerns

    When a couple divorces it is not uncommon for one of the parents to move out of state. This can create problems with visitation, especially if the distance between families is great. These circumstances can also make it hard for the kids to maintain a regular visitation schedule with the out of state parent, which may lead to a breakdown in the parent/child relationship. In order to avoid that harmful result, it is critical to account for the possibility of a parent moving to another state when the divorce is finalized. You can do this in your decree, and should also be aware of the dangers of failing to do so.

    Possible consequences of moving out of state and away from your children include:

     

    ● A lack of a parental figure, whether mother or father, in your child’s life.

    ● Difficulty in maintaining a strong relationship with your kids, or continuing to build on an already existing strong foundation.

    ● The possibility of losing parental authority with your child, especially as your kids enter their teen years and are likely to rebel.

    The costs associated with long distance travel is also a consideration. For some families the finances are such that expensive airline tickets are out of reach. Be sure these types of concerns are addressed when your divorce is final, so you can have a plan for how travel costs are covered. A popular solution, when geographically possible, is for the parties to meet half way for drop off and pick up of children at a scheduled visitation. To make sure all contingencies are covered, partner with a skilled family law attorney to protect yourself and your kids.

    For more information about divorce and out of state child visitation, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call the Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.