While divorce is a very big transformation for a family, remarriage is another massive transition for everyone involved. While divorce and remarriage is common, it still has quite an impact on children in the family. Many of these changes require a lot of attention, care and time for adjustment.
When a parent divorces and remarries, the child may lose it’s sense of family and what it means to be a joined unit of love and care, now that there are stepparents involved and often new brothers or sisters and other family members suddenly making way into the picture.
The response to these changes is different for all children. The age of a child can be a big factor in how they are impacted by a remarriage. If the child is very young they may not be able to comprehend the situation fully, so therefore they may not be as overwhelmed by the new changes. However, if the child is a bit older, they could become very confused as to why this new person is in their parent’s life when they are so used to just their biological parents. This could impact how the child functions on a daily basis, impacting their schooling, self esteem and attitude.
Another problem the child faces is how they should refer to grandparents, cousins, aunts and uncles from the family of the new spouse. In the end, their biological parents should allow the child to refer to them as they please, and should not force the child to call their new parent “mom” or “dad” or force relationships. This could cause the child to feel pressured and confused about the role that their other biological parent plays in their lives.
It is important that if you have been divorced and are remarrying, that you are very open and honest with your child about what is happening. Do not try and influence the child to take sides or feel a certain way about the situation. Be patient with them, and always answer their questions as honestly as you can without negative comments.
At The Sampair Group, our Glendale child custody attorneys can help you make remarriage an easy transition when it comes to child custody agreements and how to make a smooth transition with your family. Visit us today at www.sampair.com for a free consultation.