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Three Ways Your Divorce Could Be Worse

Getting divorced is never easy, even if you are still friends with your spouse. The emotions that go along with ending a marriage, the financial struggles that accompany separating one household into two, and the toll taken on kids during divorce is enough to make anyone throw up their hands for help. But even taking all of these things into account, it is possible to reach solutions that work and to move on with your life. The key is to focus on what matters the most to you and your family, and learn to compromise where necessary. We can help you by looking at your needs and the facts of your case, then providing aggressive representation that works.

And, if you need a little pick me up during the times when divorce seems too much to take, consider those that have it a bit harder. The world of celebrity is filled with spotlights, cameras, and little privacy. The fact that the entire world knows your personal business is enough, but in some cases the small details add up to giant heartache. Here are three ways your case could be worse, taken from some of the more talked about celebrity splits of last year:

• A short lived marriage, where one party makes the majority of the money can create feelings of resentment and add to the pressure to find quick solutions. This was seen in the divorce of Kaley Cuoco and Ryan Sweeting, with reports that Cuoco demanded Sweeting begin earning his own living.
• Starting a new relationship before the divorce is final can add to the emotional trauma that goes along with getting divorced. While this tactic may work for some, Gwen Stefani and Blake Shelton are perfect examples; it is usually not advisable to jump into a new relationship too quickly.
• Stepping out with a new flame while trying to keep it under wraps from your spouse can also spell disaster for a marriage and make the divorce take a heated turn. This is what happened in the case of Hillary Duff and Mike Comrie, and also with Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick (although Kardashian and Disick are not technically married the pair do have kids together and have a long history of a tumultuous romantic coupling).

We offer these examples, not as a way of poking fun at others or making light of their experiences, but as a way to demonstrate the unique nature of each case. The things that work for you will not always work for the next person and by the same token the things that cause you trauma will not necessarily lead to the same result for a friend. We understand the little nuances of each case and look for solutions that take your specific facts into consideration. If you are thinking about divorce but have questions about certain things, call us to learn the answers. Together we will develop a strategy that fits the facts and meets your needs.

For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Three Ways A “Work Spouse” Can Ruin Your Marriage

We’ve all heard the phrase “work husband” or “work wife”, used to refer to that one person at the office that you connect with the most; on a professional level. But, sometimes the relationship you have with your work spouse can start to cause problems at home, with your real spouse. When this happens, if steps are not taken to remedy the situation, it is not uncommon for your marriage to end in divorce. Having a work spouse is typical in nearly every line of work, but even more so for celebrities. Stars spend a lot of time together, and so it is not unusual to share a bond with a co-star who also happens to be your co-worker.

Perhaps one of the most well-known “work spouse couples” today is that of Blake Shelton and Gwen Stefani. The pair are co-hosts, along with Adam Levine and Pharrell Williams, popular singing show The Voice. Both Blake and Gwen have recently split from their at home spouses, and are now a couple. While not every relationship that is formed at work spells disaster you’re your marriage, there are three ways a work spouse can ruin your marriage, including:

  • Spending more time with people you work with rather than with your spouse at home can cause distance to grown between you and your family. When too much distance is created, it is hard to build a solid foundation.
  • When you start confiding in a work spouse rather than your real spouse, feelings of betrayal and mistrust often follow. This can be the beginning of the demise of your marriage.
  • When lines are crossed at work, it is hard to bounce back and show affection at home. If you or your spouse feel unloved or undesirable, it is difficult to maintain a healthy relationship.

For those that decide to take their “work spouse” relationship to the next level, a divorce is nearly always in the cards. If a divorce is filed, you will have to sort out issues like child custody and visitation, support, and division of assets. We can help. Call us today to find out more about divorce, and what you can expect if you are thinking about filing for divorce or have been served with divorce papers.

If you have questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Three Things That Aren’t What They Seem During Divorce

There are a lot of pre-conceived notions about what happens when a couple files for divorce. For starters, most people think that the kids will stay with their mom unless she is shown to be an unfit parent, that the wife keeps the home, and that dads get visitation every weekend and alternating holidays. That may have been the case in the 1950’s, but the landscape for divorce looks very different today. More and more often dads are being awarded primary custody and in some cases are even granted spousal support from their ex-wife. The changes that are taking place in today’s divorces definitely lead to the conclusion that the way things were are not the way things will always be, and it pays off to have an experienced family law professional by your side to help navigate the ever changing divorce law waters.

Taking a look at a popular celebrity duo gives us a little more insight into how things are not always as they appear. Gwen Stefani recently answered a question for Ellen DeGeneres on how Blake Shelton “popped the question”. In case you hadn’t heard though, the two are not headed down the aisle. As it turns out, DeGeneres was referring to the hit show the pair co-host, The Voice, and was having a bit of fun with Stefani with her word choice. That said, there are some things to be aware of when going through a divorce, because things can appear one way but in fact be the opposite. Here are some examples:

  • Assets can be hidden, so don’t take a report of financial condition for face value. It is in your best interest to investigate when you believe your spouse is concealing assets.
  • Equitable does not mean the same thing as evenly. The Court will divide property equitably, and too many litigants take for granted that this means evenly. The truth is that the division of property is done in a way the Court considers “fair” and that does not always mean each party walks away with half of the assets.
  • Visitation schedules can change, and when the circumstances warrant a change it is best to be flexible. While having a regular schedule in place helps you to manage your daily obligations, there are bound to be times a deviation is needed. If you are able to remain open to being flexible about visits when your spouse makes a request, you can expect the same in return.

Divorce is not easy, but it is also not the end of the world. Call us today for more information about divorce, and what to expect during your case.

For more information about divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

 

 

A Lesson In Divorce From Two Celebrity Singers

Going through a divorce is difficult, even if you remain friendly with your soon to be ex-spouse. But, there are some things you can do to help you cope with the range of emotions that accompany ending a marriage. When you focus on reaching a finalization of your case and moving forward with your life, you might be surprised at how well-adjusted you become. While it can be hard to find places and information that is helpful, one unlikely source is becoming more popular: the word of celebrity divorce. In most cases when celebrities divorce, the media reports provide a quick lesson in what not to do. However, there are a pair of celebrity singers who are recently going through divorce, and the everyday person could learn a thing or two from these two songbirds.

By now it is no secret that Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert have called it quits, nor has it been kept under wraps that Blake’s co-star on The Voice, Gwen Stefani is ending her marriage to fellow songster Gavin Rossdale.  Here are some takeaways from the divorces of these two superstars:

  • Throwing yourself into your work, or a project you hold dear, can be a good distraction. When you take the time to focus on what you want to do and the direction you want your life to take, pretty soon the woes of going through a divorce take a backseat.
  • Taking part in your job, including the people around you, will give you the chance to redefine who and what you want to be. This type of environment can be just the emotional boost you need to face the obstacles of divorce.

Other things that help people to cope with ending their marriage include taking part in counseling or therapy, leaning on friends and family, and taking up old hobbies that were left unattended during the marriage. Whatever method works best for you is the method you should implement into your daily routine. When you are able to shift your focus to things you enjoy, the mechanics of going through a divorce seem to cause less pain. If you are considering divorce, or have been served with divorce papers, call our office for help.

If you have questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.