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How To Keep The Peace During Divorce

Getting divorced stirs up a lot of emotions, and can turn into a hotly contested legal battle. Certain issues generally take center stage, with parties refusing to budge on their position. While it is important to safeguard your children and assets, it is also important to reach a final resolution of your case so you can move forward with your life. When trying to figure out what is best for you, it is not uncommon to look for guidance from friends and family as well as from your family law attorney. And, in an age where athletes and superstars are also seen as role models for many, sometimes it can be helpful to see how a celebrity couple handles the sensitive issues that accompany divorce.

One such couple is Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner. The approach being taken by the power couple is to present their case to mediation rather than have it linger at the Courthouse. The Huffington Post reported on the case, and highlighted some of the benefits of keeping the peace while getting divorced as:

  • Avoiding lengthy litigation and the opportunity to “prove” which parent is better helps shield your kids from the negative impact associated with the “name calling” that so often accompanies this type of behavior.
  • Remaining calm helps the parties maintain good health and thus allows them to be better parents to their children.
  • Mediation remains private, which is a huge concern for celebrities.

If this type of forum appeals to you, it is good to know that it is also available to non-celebrity and superstar couples. One way your approach may differ from Ben and Jen’s though is that you should have competent counsel represent you during the process. Stars have a team of advisors at their disposal, and perhaps this is why the couple opted to participate in divorce mediation without the assistance of an attorney. But, for the average couple it is best to have legal representation even in mediation. Having an experienced attorney by your side will give you the comfort of knowing your interests are well-protected, and help ease the burden divorce can cause. We listen to your needs and then develop a plan that is most likely to meet those needs. Call our office today for more information, and for help with your case.

For more information about marriage and divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

How To Keep The Peace During Divorce

Getting divorced stirs up a lot of emotions, and can turn into a hotly contested legal battle. Certain issues generally take center stage, with parties refusing to budge on their position. While it is important to safeguard your children and assets, it is also important to reach a final resolution of your case so you can move forward with your life. When trying to figure out what is best for you, it is not uncommon to look for guidance from friends and family as well as from your family law attorney. And, in an age where athletes and superstars are also seen as role models for many, sometimes it can be helpful to see how a celebrity couple handles the sensitive issues that accompany divorce.

One such couple is Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner. The approach being taken by the power couple is to present their case to mediation rather than have it linger at the Courthouse. The Huffington Post reported on the case, and highlighted some of the benefits of keeping the peace while getting divorced as:

  • Avoiding lengthy litigation and the opportunity to “prove” which parent is better helps shield your kids from the negative impact associated with the “name calling” that so often accompanies this type of behavior.
  • Remaining calm helps the parties maintain good health and thus allows them to be better parents to their children.
  • Mediation remains private, which is a huge concern for celebrities.

If this type of forum appeals to you, it is good to know that it is also available to non-celebrity and superstar couples. One way your approach may differ from Ben and Jen’s though is that you should have competent counsel represent you during the process. Stars have a team of advisors at their disposal, and perhaps this is why the couple opted to participate in divorce mediation without the assistance of an attorney. But, for the average couple it is best to have legal representation even in mediation. Having an experienced attorney by your side will give you the comfort of knowing your interests are well-protected, and help ease the burden divorce can cause. We listen to your needs and then develop a plan that is most likely to meet those needs. Call our office today for more information, and for help with your case.

For more information about marriage and divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Does Divorce Run In The Family: Another Affleck Divorce?

By now the entire world has probably heard that Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are ending their marriage. Now reports show that Ben’s brother Casey is in the same boat. Stories are circulating that claim Casey Affleck and his wife of ten years, Summer Phoenix, are divorcing. With both Affleck brothers now going down the road of divorce, a good question is whether divorce “runs in the family”? The question is not a new one, but with the increase of divorce cases it is worth taking another look at the possibility kids of divorce will also end their marriages as adults.

Studies have shown that children of divorce are more likely to also get divorced than those kids that come from a family without divorce. Here are a couple of interesting bits of information about how well children of divorce fare in their own marriages:

• Many kids look to their parents as “marriage models”, thus if the parents got divorced it can be argued the kids will too because that is the example that has been set.
• Watching your parents go through divorce can create a stress level that is hard to recover from and is carried from childhood to adult life.
• On the other hand, children learn from seeing how their parents handle stress and difficult obstacles that arise in a marriage. This learning experience can lead kids to make different decisions in their own marriages later in life, and work towards reconciliation rather than divorce.

Even though studies show children of divorce are more likely to get divorced themselves, the bottom line is that every marriage has its own set of ingredients. The decision to file for divorce is personal and should only be made after careful thought and consideration. If you are thinking about filing for divorce call our office for more information. We can help you identify which issues matter the most to you and give you options that will help you reach the conclusions you want. One of our experienced family law attorneys is ready to talk to you today.

Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today.

Four Reasons To Be Careful When Hiring At Home Help

Let’s face it, you are busy. Your spouse is busy. Your kids are busy, and so are their friends. Most families have a lot on their plate, and one easy fix is to hire a housekeeper or a nanny to help out around the house and to run kids back and forth from school activities and sports. It goes without saying that you have to be diligent about who you hire for help within your home, especially if this person will spend a lot of time with and have an influence on your children. Aside from making sure your at home help is dependable, have a clean criminal record, are good with your kids, and can get the job done as you expect it is also smart to take into account the possibility your spouse will form an attachment to outsiders that become part of your “family”.

Four good reasons to be careful when you hire someone to help out around the house include:

  • Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner: the celebrity couple is divorcing amidst rumors Ben had an extra-marital relationship with the nanny
  • Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver: the political power couple put an end to their marriage when it was revealed Arnold had fathered a child with the nanny.
  • Jude Law: Law’s marriage also came to an end during a scandal involving his nanny.
  • Ethan Hawke and Uma Thurman: Thurman divorced Hawke some years ago, and claimed Hawke had been intimate with the couple’s nanny.
  • Our position is not that you should hire help that meet a certain physical appearance requirement, but that you should take care when deciding who will be in your home. If, after you hire a nanny or other at home worker, you see signs that your spouse has become attracted to your employee, take action. Your first step should be to talk it over with your spouse and try to reach a solution to the issue. However, if you are unable to do so and find yourself staring down the possibility of divorce, call us for help. We focus on family law matters and can give you the advice you need to make educated and well thought out decisions.

    For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

    Putting Divorce In Reverse, Celebrity Style

    Every day there seems to be a news report about a celebrity break up or a reconnection. The world of celebrity romance is intriguing, and sometimes the public just can’t get enough of their favorite superstars. Whether the news is related to a birth, a marriage, a divorce, or a new film those fascinated with all things Hollywood gobble up every bit of information they can find on the rich and famous. When the headlines scream “Divorce!” it is usually just a matter of time before a well-known couple moves on to new love interests, or decides to give their union one more try. Depending on how you perceive the star in question, your opinion about their romantic choices may give you hope, or reconfirm your opinions about marriage and divorce.

    One couple that most everyone seems to be rooting for though is Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck. And if recent reports are accurate the couple may be on the road to reconnection. Here are a few of the reported facts:

    • Ben and Jen have been spotted out and about lately, causing the gossip mill to work overtime and speculate that the couple is reuniting.
    • During one of their more publicized “dates” Ben was seen “acting like a gentleman” to Jennifer and the report also includes information that she was dressed to impress.
    • Shortly after one of these dates, the rumors began coming out that the divorce has been put on hold.

    Of course the only two people that know whether they will end up divorced or being able to work out their issues are Ben and Jennifer. The same is true for every case, even one where the parties are not superstars. You do have the right to put your case on hold, but our advice is to do so with caution. Unless both the husband and wife are willing to give a 100% effort to the marriage, attempts at reconciliation usually falter. This is not to say couples have not been able to overcome seemingly impossible hurdles, but it does take a lot of hard work. Most times it is best to engage the assistance of a qualified therapist or counselor, and it can even help to keep an attorney on hand for answers to legal questions when they arise.

    For more information about divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

    How Does Divorce Impact The Sale Of A Celebrity Home?

    One of the most contentious parts of any divorce is how to divide the assets. For most couples, the single most valuable asset is their home. This is true for every day folks, and is also true for celebrity couples. The difference is that when a celebrity couple calls it quits, millions of dollars are typically at stake when the home is put on the market. For some, the idea of owning real estate once owned by a celebrity is appealing, but for others the emotional connection felt for the start could mean a sale of the home is a long time coming.

    Realty today claims a celebrity divorce is a good thing for the market, because everyone is suddenly interested in what price Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner’s home will fetch (early reports show the price tag was $45 million). But, this does not mean that a sale of property a celebrity couple once called home will happen any time soon. Here is a quick list of properties that sat on the market for a while, or have seen a reduction in the asking price in the hopes of a quick sale:

    • Terrell Owens’ home has been on the market for nearly 4 months.
    • Josh Hamilton has dropped the price on his home, as he waits for an offer after having listed it in April 2015.
    • Drew Barrymore sold her home after her first divorce for a little over $1 million less than the original list price.

    Of course prices pays a major role in how quickly property will move, but in the case of a celebrity divorce there are added elements such as the level of fame of the couple and public perception. For couples viewed as “America’s Sweethearts”, like Ben and Jen or Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert, some fans may be too emotional to take up residence in the couples’ former home. This can make settling the estate a difficult task, and prolong the duration of the case. Unfortunately, this type of delay can also occur in a non-celebrity case, making it hard for the parties to reach a final agreement. If you need help with your divorce, and have concerns about the length of time it may take to sell marital property, we can help. Call us today for more information.

     

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    Three Ways To Escalate Issues In Your Divorce

    Much to the dismay of their adoring fans, Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck announced they’d be divorcing in 2015. In fact, the summer of 2015 was the “summer of celebrity divorce”, with a near record number of stars taking steps to end their marriages. Some of the splits were easily predicted, while others came as a surprise. Along with the shock untold numbers of fans felt comes a little bit of hope, and some “to do’s” and “not to do’s” when it comes to getting divorced. One of the worst parts of divorce is how quickly an issue can escalate, but if you are careful you can put a stop to the emotional roller coaster and move on with your life.

    Three ways to escalate issues in a divorce case, as told by Jennifer Garner, include:

    • Believing gossip or rumors spread by family or friends. Often times when a couple gets divorced their friends and family weigh in with their opinions. This can quickly escalate and turn into nothing more than idle gossip. If you give in to the temptation to listen to what others have to say about your soon to be ex-spouse, it is not long before you are believing inflated stories. All this does is fuel an already burning emotional fire, which can make for a messy divorce.
    • Failing to accept the facts, and your participation in the events that led to the divorce. This is not to say that you should take all the “blame” for the downfall of your marriage, but it is important to recognize where improvement is needed, so you can build stronger relationships in the future and set a good example for your kids.
    • Keeping your feelings to yourself and “settling” on a decision too quickly out of fear of conflict. Many times a couple is coming off of hard feelings from their marriage and just want the process to be over. But giving in on important issues can lead to resentment, which in turn can cause you to refuse to compromise when necessary.

    We understand how hard it is to go through a divorce without letting your emotions get the best of you. This is why we are here to help guide you to workable solutions, and make sure the end result is in your best interest. Call our office to discuss your case and learn your options.

    For more information about divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.