There is no sure way to “divorce proof” your marriage, and every relationship is different. There is also no sure way to tell if your marriage will end in divorce when you walk down the aisle, or even in the months and years after saying “I do”. But there are some warning signs to watch out for, and if any of these are present in your marriage it might be a good idea to find a way to fix what’s gone wrong, or decide to dissolve your union.
Ten signs your marriage is headed for divorce include:
- You are unable to tolerate your spouse. This should be viewed differently from loving your partner or even being “in love” with your mate. Tolerance is the ability to love a person while accepting their flaws and even in the middle of conflict. If you often find yourself wishing yourself in a different room or even geographic location than your spouse, your relationship may not have what it takes to make marriage stick.
- Being unable to see the good in your spouse, or in his or her intentions. Not every action undertaken is done with a hurtful purpose and if you are unable to see that your spouse is putting forth an effort it is not likely your marriage will last.
- Failing to give your spouse emotional and physical support, or even being unable to pay a sincere compliment.
- Putting your own needs or those of your kids before your spouse’s needs is a sure sign your marriage is headed down a dark path.
- Trying to make changes to who your spouse is fundamentally, such as by forcing certain religious beliefs or engaging in behavior that requires your spouse to agree with your every thought.
- Clamming up and failing to communicate about the things that bother you, or expecting your spouse to read your mind. Without communication there can be very little chance that two people will ever truly understand the needs of the other.
- Engaging in extra marital relationships.
- Allowing your spouse to carry the weight of the household responsibilities. When people feel taken advantage of it is hard to find ways to show respect to another. Without mutual respect for what each party brings to the table it is hard to make a marriage work.
- Waiting too long to discuss important issues, which can lead to resentment and anger.
- Feeling insignificant or that you are living a separate life from your spouse. While it is important to maintain your own identity, it is equally as important to have an identity as a couple.
If you have tried to make your marriage work but are not able to do so, it might be time to call for help. Contact us to learn more about divorce, and whether the time is right for you to file.
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