Anyone who has ever seen Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar know they are a couple who professes to have strong spiritual beliefs. The reality TV couple shot to fame with their show on TLC about how many kids they have, and how they manage a large family. What started out for the Duggars as a way to show the world how to raise a big family has turned into a question of what they claim to be strong Christian values, given their son Josh recently made headlines of his own for acts of abuse in his younger years. The public was outraged that Josh had abused some of his sisters while growing up, and that he had also engaged in extra marital relationships. The controversy has led to speculation that the Duggar’s way of life may not be all they claim.
Despite the rumors, it seems Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar are not headed for divorce, and they cite their faith as what has kept them together.
Some of the ways the Duggars say faith has kept them together, may also offer insight into ways you can make it through divorce if your decision is not to stay together. This includes the following three ways “faith” can help during divorce:
● Whatever your spiritual beliefs, the stronger those beliefs are for you personally and independently of your spouse will help you to find ways to get through the tough emotions that often accompany divorce.
● While forgiving your spouse for what you perceive their role to be in the demise of the marriage, it is just as important to identify areas where you may have contributed to the path to divorce and also forgive yourself. Divorce offers you a clean slate, and letting go of guilt or feelings of failure is an essential part to a fresh start.
● Avoid the urge to badmouth your spouse, especially if kids are involved. When you resort to name calling or placing blame, your children will see that it is OK to engage in hurtful behavior. However, if you are able to avoid falling into this emotional trap, your kids will learn respect.
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