Everyone talks about co-parenting during and after divorce or a custody case. But what is it really?
Co-parenting does not have to include:
– A 50/50 time split with the other parent for your child. You can co-parent whether you see your child once a month or every day. It’s about the communication, not the time break down.
– Seeing your ex all the time. You don’t have to co-parent in person all the time. Co-parenting is about working together and having your child’s best interests in mind. Many people make co-parenting decisions by email or text.
– Having to spent time together as a happy family. Some families like to do this, but it doesn’t work for everyone.
– Being the one who always gives in. Co-parenting is about compromise, but both parents have to compromise for it to work.
– Ignoring your issues with your ex. Of course you have issues – you got divorced! Good co-parents find a way to keep those issues separate.
Co-parenting should include:
– Understanding that it is best for your child if you and your ex find a way to communicate about your child and work together as parents some of the time.
– Keeping your problems with the ex away from your child. The conflicts you have with each other should not be something your child sees or hears. Deal with those issues when your child is out of earshot.
– Finding a way to parent together in person some of the time. This can be as simple as you both being at her soccer game or both of you attending concerts.
– Keeping your ex involved your child’s life. Pass along emails and papers from school, information about achievements, and things that involve your child.
– Sharing holidays in a fair way so your child sees both parents and does not feel burdened by a tug of war between you.
– Accepting that you may have different parenting styles.
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