There really is no such thing as an easy divorce. This is true even when nearly all the terms are agreed to by the parties. It becomes more so when there are children involved. When a couple ends their marriage it is critical that they do so in a way that does not create chaos for the kids. Providing positive reinforcement is key, and allowing the kids to continue to enjoy a relationship with both parents goes a long way. When children see their divorced parents continue to co-parent in harmony, and agree on significant issues concerning the children the result is an emotionally well balanced child. Getting there though can be a tough road. It is crucial to refrain from disparaging your ex in front of the kids, or encouraging the children not to visit or spend time with a parent.
Parental alienation occurs when a child “takes the side” of one of the parents in the divorce as the result of direct or indirect encouragement from the other parent. This can lead to that child refusing to spend time with the other parent and a quick decline in the bond between parent and child. Things you can do to avoid parental alienation include:
● Participate in therapy during your divorce, both on your own and with your children.
● Enroll in a parenting class.
● Reassure your children that the divorce is an adult issue, and not the fault of the kids.
When you are the victim of parental alienation it may feel like there is little you can do to reverse the impact. However, you do have rights and should exercise them. Most times children simply want to be heard, so keeping the lines of communication open on a daily basis is the first step. In the most egregious of circumstances, you can also seek the assistance of the Court. It is a good idea to keep a journal of events so that you can present evidence to the Court of your ex’s role in the alienation. When kids are involved in a divorce the Courts take special care to make decisions that are in the best interests of the children. When you have documented information of behavior that is damaging to your child, it should be brought to the attention of the Court. We are skilled in developing the facts that work in your favor, and presenting them to the Court for review. Call our office for assistance, and stay an active part of your child’s life even after divorce.
For answers to your questions about parental alienation and what you can do about it, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call the Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.