For many people, getting divorced creates a sense of loss that they are no longer in control of their future. Where there was once a family, now there are two single parents without common goals. Where you once had holidays planned well in advance, you now find yourself going to your parents’ house alone or hoping to be invited to a friend or neighbor’s house for festivities. This level of uncertainty can be too much for some people to take. Add to that the thought of having to tell friends, family, business associates, co-workers, and a long list of acquaintances that you are divorced and it is easy to see how many divorced people can feel as though they are no longer in control of their life.
If this sounds like you, perhaps the answer lies in taking a cue from celebrity divorce cases. The one document nearly every celebrity couple makes a part of their split is the announcement that the marriage has ended. While a celebrity couple makes this announcement via their publicist, and it quickly spreads via the internet and other media outlets, that is not exactly what we have in mind for you. Instead, it could be argued the one document (the announcement) that gives you back some control does so by:
- Making it easy for you to tell a large number of people at once, which means you, can avoid repeating the story several times. This may make your divorce easier in that it will help you remain emotionally on key.
- Having a “script” will help you say just what you want, rather than convey emotional pleas or provide the opportunity to “bash” your ex, both behaviors can be damaging not only to your psyche, but also to your case.
A word of caution about announcements though, try to avoid posting them on social media if possible. While it may be tempting to post a quick #divorcestory, the content may end up as evidence in your case. The better approach is to write down your story, and keep it to yourself until asked. This will help you to get out what you are feeling and want to say, which can be emotionally freeing in and of itself. Or, you might choose to send a private message to a few select friends and family, and then ask for privacy.
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